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30-35,
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writes:Is it like, love, or lust?1. I see this guy and am instantly attracted to him. I fantacize about him kissing me, etc.2. I get to kinow this guy and realize that we have a lot in common.. even really random things, like favorite ice cream flavors.3. I get to know him further. He's a great person, but starts acting like a jerk and going off on strange tangents. I'm worried about him-- really worried. It makes me really stressed for a while.4. He gets better and is himself again. I'm beyond relieved. I begin to fantacize about him again.What would you call this? Either in step-by-step form or my overall relationship with this guy?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 September 2009):
 I would call it a girl who makes to much of love/lust.
Girls seems to be almost raised with the idea that got to have a boyfriend and the love is something perfect and absolute.
The reality is that sometimes love isn't. We just get attracted to the wrong at the wrong time. And if we are smart, we resist in such situations. Just cry our heart out but move on from someone who would be bad for us.
The idea that you must suffer for love leads to a lot of girls like you, who realize a guy is going to hurt them still going on with it because... well... why exactly?
Lets say that you love him and lets say he got something seriously wrong with him.
Then can you accept that you got the choice to cut this relationship off? That just because you are in love/lust doesn't mean something has to happen?
Girls your age often are attracted to drama and the idea that their love will save a guy etc etc.
It rarely works out. So, I would call your relationship with this guy. "Teenage girl in love with love getting in over her head".
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