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anonymous
writes:I think I know why its happening but I just want to know how to get it right again. Can anyone PLEASE HELP??? The first time it happened was a few months ago where I was very hard and before I could get in I went limp. I'm very attracted to her so thats not it. I've never had this problem before ever and I'm 36 yrs old. Now for whatever reason it happened the first time I don't know. But I do know when it did happen she threw an ever loving fit that turned into a 40 min. argument on why that happen and she just said everything from "are you not attracted to me or have you lost feelings for me" and this is all said in a mean tone and pissie attitude. Since then its happened three or four more times and I just need to find a way to not worrie about it because I think thats why it keeps happening. Me worried about the fighting and the ending of a relationship that I want so much. I want to marry this girl and if this keeps happening she will not want me as a husband. Please help..Can anyone tell me if the little blue pill would solve this matter??Thank you for your help.
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reader, SallyGal +, writes (19 February 2011):
I would say find a new girlfriend and your problems may very well disappear. Anyone who would carry on for 40 minutes about such an issue has an issue with their own self esteem and it is carrying over to you physically. It is not uncommon to find a little ED in men here and there, especially as we get a little older. There can be many causes, certain medications or medical conditions. Because I am older, I have dealt with my partner feeling as if he has "failed" me in the past. The way I handle it is to be reassuring, and find ways to please him or be erotic without sex. When this occurs, we're sure to have one of the more satisfying sexual encounters in days ahead with no pressure whatsoever. Communication is a must in these siutations. See if you can talk to her and agree upon a no-climax intimate encounter. It can be extremely erotic and lead to fantastic sex later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): Well, I had this problem when I first had sex. I was having limp problems too, exactly like you describe. Have you tried foreplay? Lengthening the foreplay might help. Relaxing is a big one. That was what it was for me. Make sure you're relaxed, calm, etc. Have you tried different locations?
I have no experience with the blue pill, so I couldn't tell you anything in that respect. But try sex under different circumstances and see if anything changes.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (19 February 2011):
In my own personal opinion your girlfriend handled it the very wrong way. And I agree with you. Her attitude sounds like the very cause of this problem coming again. Because this problem is usually related to stress. And you are stressing about this right now.
Your best bet is to talk to her about this issue and tell her what you have written here. Ask her to be patient and understanding. Let her know she turns you on, and tell her this problem is related to stress.
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