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writes: I have a girlfriend who i am really happy with and love her to pieces but i have recently been having sexual feelings towards a male friend of mine, I know i am not gay cos i am in love with my girlfriend but i am having sexual feelings about my mate what should i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE: K well a lot has happend since i last updated: me and my girlfriend have split up which had nothing to do with my mate. But my feelings for him are getting stronger i can't decide whether i want to be his mate or his bf. I get really nervous around him now and think about him non stop all day which drives me mad. I really don't know if i want to be his mate of his boyfriend
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reader, gungass +, writes (4 August 2006):
It would appear you are having bisexual ideas towards this fiend.and by suggesting a 3 some to him was a covert gay response.
be careful when considering 3 somes as they can tend to leave to difficulties afterward.just try being honest to your emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thought i would update i do have strong feelings for my girlfriend but i can't get my mate out my head i find myself talking about him all the time and checking the rota to see when we are next working together. Last night the three of us went out with a couple of mates and my girlfriend got very drunk and suggested a threesome at the idea i was secretly happy but he seemed shocked so i pretended it was the lst thing on my mind.
Yes he is the only male if had sexual feeling towards but i think i am bisexual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2006): Hi there. Taking the first bit last, I think that what you should - in fact need to - do is sort out your feelings. Until then, do nothing, as you don't want to ruin a good relationship with the girl you love.Is your friend the only man you have had sexual feelings for? I'm gay and I have to say that if you're sexually attracted to men, I don't think you're straight. I'm not saying you're not attracted to women, or that you don't love your girlfriend: have you considered the possibility that you're bisexual?From what I can see, it's not understanding your feelings that's bothering you. Look at it like this - if your friend were another woman, what would you do? Would you finish with your girlfriend? Talk to your friend about it? Ignore your feelings. If you're sure about the relationship you're in, your actions should be the same, no matter what the sex of the person you're attracted to. If your attraction to your friend is stronger than your relationship with your girlfriend, then I think you've some more thinking to do.
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