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writes:hi, ill try and keep this short.. ive been having doubts about being with my boyfriend.. we've been together 5 months.. we were friends long before that and we were kinda together before this, but unoffically as i was living far away. im home now though. we have a brilliant relationship, brilliant sex life, apart from once a week when we fall out, never more, never less.. we have plans of moving in together in the next few months, however im having doubts about the relationship, i do something nice for him, he picks fault, only jokingly but still.. (when we were friends this would have been fine) he never does anything, simple things like the pots and emptying the ashtray or doing washing (we practically live together at the moment at my mums) do you i do want to move in together as we already live together so id like a place of our own but.. im having doubts about the relationship in general.. i feel like i have a child to look after, but one who wont do as their told.. are all men like this?? anyone got any opinions on this? Thanks to anyone who replies xx
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reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (10 February 2012):
 Never move in with someone if you have the SLIGHTEST doubt. Trust me, I've been there. You seriously need to take time to think. We cannot tell you what to do with this situation. It's down to you. But it sounds as if you aren't truly happy. You sound like you were better off as friends. I'm not saying break up, it's not my place to say that to you. But no not all men are like this. You really need to talk to him and be SURE that you can live with him. If he's like this now, when you live together on your own it'd get worse and then you're living together and share responsibility of the place. By moving in together in the state you're in now, you're setting yourself up for disaster sweetheart. because then if you move in together you'll feel you have to stick with him because it's routine and what not. Don't put up with any crap if you aren't happy :)
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 Have you talked to him about sharing the household responsibilities?You guys are going to move in together in a few months, is he still living with his parents for the time being?Once upon a time I received excellent advice from an older woman. She said, "if you're going to live with a man, make sure he's lived on his own first."If they have lived on their own, they have had the experience of having to provide and take care of themselves. Most mothers have a tendency to dote on their sons and take care of them while they are living at home. If he is going straight from mommy's house to living with his girlfriend, he has not had a chance to fend for himself. Otherwise, these men "expect" their girlfriends to take care of them the way their mother did. I'm not saying this is the case, I wouldn't know, you haven't told us his living situation other than he practically lives with you and your mom, but if he is living with his parents, take that under consideration. In addition, even though you have been friends for a while, you've only been officially dating as of recently for 5 months. Isn't that too soon to be moving in together anyway? Have you had enough time to figure out if you two would be compatible living together?
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