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writes:Im in longterm relationship with my boyfriend of 6 years. He proposed for marriage but theres doubts despite i love him so much.Im confused with his character. Im unsure about my future with him. We had go through had times with breakups and get back together after he proposed last year. Now he keeps asking when we are going to marry and when im ready.He is so loving and patient almost all of the time but when it comes to the point where hes angry he can be so emotional eg when i advise him. He could raise his voice telling me to stop the conversation and drop me quickly to my home so that theres no argument continuing. He doesnt like to accept advice and complain for what hed done. Which im genuinely wish for his best. Last night we had a fight about it and he promised that he will change that attitude and expressed deep regret for that.However most of the time hes loving and prioritize my need and happiness. He let me decide everything what to eat, where to go, what to watch. He also accept me fully and never complain anything about me.Financially, hes independant enough although doesnt make a good amount but hes trying his best i know. Problem is hes not raised and living in a good environment that he doesnt learn how to do a good business and befriend with people who can motivate him to be a better person. I tried to motivate him by telling stories and experience my dad told me before in hope that he can learn something but he got it as i want to change him and didnt think its the same situation between him and my dad.Sometimes hes so stingy with his earning for himself (except for me,he would buy things for me although i dont ask for things to make me happy). But theres time he want to buy car after he accompany his friend to buy new car. Or he do something after he sees his friend done that. I think its so childish and he must have his own moral and character not to be influence by other.His family consider him as sloppy and careless person which i agree. But i love him because he can make me feel secure with him and feel loved in the same time. He treats me as special and always guard me like im precious for him. I just wonder that with this character could he make a good lifetime partner for me so that i wont regret it. Im a person who considerate so many things before im fully sure and go on with my choice.Can our relationship last? Is there anybody experience and have this doubts with their love one? Is it normal?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (23 August 2015):
 His ego is so fragile that if you want to be in are relationship with him you are going to act like an ego booster machine. Everything you say, act or do has the power to make him or break him as a man. For me this is too much stress to deal with. I won't call this a deal breaker exactly but as a personality flaw. He has his masculine side of course but he depends too much on others to make him feel good about himself. He regards macho qualities very highly but his behaviour towards others shows that he's not alpha, only a wannabe.
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