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writes:I m 22 years old n i love a guy he is 23 and married to my friend.we have known each other since 1 year ago before evwrything was ok but since 4-5months we are regularly talking with each other and meeting secretly.we both have feelings for each other but at the same time he is afraid of his wife..i dnt know what to do i cannot get him out of my mind
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (28 January 2016):
He doesnt love you, he's using you for easy sex while he invests his resources into his wife.
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reader, Songwr1ter  +, writes (27 January 2016):
I think you should end it with him, and tell your friend, what's been going on. How do you know he has feelings for you? As Aunt Honesty said, if he did love you, he'd pick you. So do the right thing....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2016): Woman,have some self control! It doesn't matter if this is the man of your dreams he is taken! And by someone you know (I won't say friend,as they clearly aren't in your eyes). Why on earth do you want this messy drama over a man? Break it off Find someone else who is single and hope no one finds out or your life will become a huge drama
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (27 January 2016):
 She may be your friend but you can hardly say you are hers.What on earth are you doing and how you think this is going to end, not in your favour I would imagine. What is it that you are wanting to happen, a relationship? That you might get, just remember a cheater is still a cheater and if this is nothing more than a bit of a thrill for him, how long before he is needing to find the next one? Life is about choices so choose to do the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2016): Wow, what a dilemma! My advice is move to another state far far from them and cut all relations with them.That is the only workable solution. It will hurt at first but believe me you will overcome it, it is better for all round.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2016): I'm afraid if you're having affair with another woman's husband, you can no longer call her or yourself a friend. If you're doing it in secret, it's cheating and a betrayal to her trust.
People try to make affairs seem innocent, and like they just can't help themselves. They think by claiming they love each other, that makes it somehow justified. Not if the lover is still married.
It's more sexual than anything else; if he hasn't left her for you.
Call yourself a friend when you've broken it off; and never go near him behind her back again.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (26 January 2016):
What? Why would you do such a horrible thing to your so called friend? This is an awful, awful betrayal.
The only right thing to do is to let her know what you have been doing, apologize and remove yourself from both of their lives. That is HER HUSBAND. Not yours.
I can't imagine how devastated I'd be if one of my friends and my own husband betrayed me so terribly.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 January 2016):
 What does he mean he is afraid off his wife? Sounds to me like he is more afraid of his wife finding out as he does not want to leave her. If he wanted to be with you then he would choose you. But he wants both his cake and eat it.
You don't sound like a very good friend when you are meeting up with her husband behind your back, you know that he will always pick his wife over you, and you will end up getting hurt, so I suggest that you avoid them both and allow them to work on there marriage, while you take time to get over him.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (26 January 2016):
 basically you are cheating with a married man,and he is cheating on his wife. i would say your friend (his wife) your friendship is over. people do not need friends that will still their husband or wife. his wife is the one that will feel the pain, and hurt by her husband and friend. how do you feel about that?
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