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writes: I have been having an on affair with a married woman for the last 5 years. Recently I was casually looking at my lovers emails and noticed she has started having IVF with her husband to have a baby. Naturally it came as a shock, not in so much on her wanting a baby but more the fact she wishes to continue our affair. My first thought is that she was using me in an attempt to have a baby but when we had a pregnancy scare a few years ago she said she could never carry my child since her family would disown her. When I talked about the IVF treatment with her she mentioned that she was going to tell me and that she dosent want anything to change between us. I am totally confused on what to do next as she needs emotional support given her husband works away and only visits home every 2-3 weeks. Indeed, we talk to each other 3 -4 times a day and the conversations we have makes me feel that I am the expectant farther. Therefore, on one hand I want to support her but on the other know that the child will not be mine. What to do?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 June 2010):
Leave her to her pregnancy and to her husband. You don't need to do any emotional supporting let her husband support her. You don't belong in this picture, Buddy. It's time to go.
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