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writes:I've been having an affair with someone from work for over a year and a half now. I have a marriage where we sleep in separate beds no sex or any type of mutual passion for either one of us. My wife also suffers from depression and bladder problems is currently under medication for both. The affair that I am in may be deeper than we both anticipated with us both moving in together. Our lives are similiar in parrells and our home relationships. As the statistics or the literature indicate it was never my intent to have an affair. I have no guilt from my behavior since my married life is in a shambles in my mind. I am past the point of no return in this marriage. What do others think about my troubles
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (1 April 2007):
 You need to set your partners free if you want to be together, give them a chance to be happy with someone else too. It sounds like she knows things aren't working either but is sticking around, either with hope it will sort itself out or fear of being alone. You need to tell her it is over for good and she needs to move on with her life, you can't rob each other of any more precious time.
I know you're in love with this other woman and, if she's who you want, you two should go for it. Life is too short to worry about what others will say all the time, as long as you let your partners know soon, I wish you all the happiness. I just can't help feeling so sad for your wife and her husband, I only hope they find happiness elsewhere too.
The fact that you don't feel any guilt shows me you do not love this woman anymore. You need to get out of this and let her go. It's going to be a hard few months when it all comes out and everyone is going to be very unhappy but you'll get through it. You owe her this after all this time, don't you?
Good luck to all involved.
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