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writes:i was married for 9 yrs. my ex husband went down on me and i didn't feel nothing it was not pleasurable for me. so i don't really care for receiving oral. my current boyfriend wants to perform oral sex on me but i don't let him. this is issue because he gets mad when i don't. it's just that i don't like it. it does nothing for me. i don't feel pleasure.what can i do? any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): s e r i o u s l y he was not doin it right, give the new man a chance! ;-)
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (22 October 2009):
I think you should try and compromise. I love oral sex but I'm really not keen on "doggy style" - it does nothing for me, it's uncomfortable and sometimes painful. I still do it sometimes though because I know how much my current partner loves it and I like to give him pleasure (he certainly gives me plenty!)He knows that it's not something that I'll do that often, he knows to go slow, he knows he can't do it for too long and he knows to stop when I ask him to.Talk to your boyfriend and see if you can work out some compromise like this. Oral sex is obviously important to him. And definitely take oldersisters advice.I'm also tempted to agree with all the other aunties and say that your ex wasn't doing it properly but that's probably because I'm a fan of oral! There's probably someone reading my answer thinking "She doesn't like it doggy style?? She's nuts!!!!". Everyone's different!Take care and I hope you work something out
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): I was the same as you, married for several years, never really liked oral, never did anything for me...UNTIL I met someone else who was flippin great at it. Now I love it, love it, love it and can't get enough. You should let your BF try, as you may be pleasantly surprised. If it's the same unpleasant, boring experience as with your husband, then you can go from there and continue to tell him it's just not your cup of tea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Uncle Phil is right, perhaps your ex husband was just useless at it, you should let this new guy try. You'd never know he might be really good at it and to not find that out because you're ex wasn't would be a real shame.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): i agree with uncle phil. You should give him a chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Maybe your ex-husband wasn't doing it quite right?
Why not give your new fella the opportunity to give it a try and see what he can do for you? You might be pleasantly surprised - or on the other hand you won't feel any different about it, in which case you can reinforce your decision not to engage in the activity, but at least you won't have rejected him out of hand.
Many men, myself included, consider this to be the pinnacle of worshipping their partner. If he wants to do it for you, chances are he likes you!
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