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writes:Question. My fiance just got a new job his work stays open till like 3 and 4 am and I'm worried that he won't have much time for our new baby and won't have time for me if I have to get a job. I don't like his hours but at least he has a full time job. Does anyone else have to deal with a fiance or husband who works late hours like this? If so how do you deal? Especially if you yourself have to work.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 January 2010):
My hubbie works for the ambulance service and works 7pm to 7am some times. Then sleeps all day.
The way you cope with it is that you just look at when he is available and work round it.
Schedule in some time in the day when he CAN play with the kid and you can have a few minutes to yourself. AND a few minutes where you shove the kid in a play pen and have HIM to yourself.
In my house we compromise by me getting up early so when my husband comes in, he makes himself stay awake and we have a nice breakfast together. Then he goes to sleep and I go off to work.
Talk to him and work something out. Routine can really help.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): I am currently engaged. My job hours rotate every 2 months. Right now I go into work at 10pm and get off at 8am. My fiancé goes into work at 8am and gets off at 5pm. I sleep while she is at work.
We only have from 5pm-9pm to spend time together. But we try to make the most of it. We understand it's not permanent. In 2 months I will go into work at 6am-4pm. So we just deal with it while it's hard.
But we love each other enough to know it's not how much time you spend together but the quality of the time you get.
It's a little different with you since you have a baby; but if you both love each other just make every effort to try your hardest to spend good quality time every chance you get.
Also, if it's too much maybe he can find another job? Good luck!
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