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writes:Once again I need some help from My Agony Aunts. I'm in a LDR for 6 months now. It has its trials but I love my b/f enough to make us work. Now I have not heard from hi in three days now. No message, phonecall, emails nothing. What in the world is going on with him. I know he works around the clock but I have not heard anything and I left mesages for him. Please help me what could be going on with him. I need advise especially from men please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): I understand how you must be feeling. I am in a long distance relationship too, and we used to have daily contact. Then suddenly, he disappeared for a week. A week with no contact. I was thinking of all kinds of terrible things. It turned out to be nothing though, everything was okay, he had just had some upheavals in his life.
So as difficult as it may be, try and stay calm. It might be nothing. You've done all you can, you have left messages. All you can really do now is wait to hear from him. If something HAS happened, you will soon know. Otherwise, wait to hear from him. And when you do, perhaps you could explain to him how it makes you feel when he disappears like this. Even if he is busy, a quick message or phone call to explain what's going on isn't too much to ask for.
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 I was in a LDR for years, sometimes he wouldn't email or call for days but he was working hard, then sleeping early and never had 5 minutes to call when either I wasn't working or he wasn't working etc, it was a difficult situation. 3 days of no contact wouldnt worry me, just back off for a while and let him come to you. Anything could have happened but I can assure you that if anything terrible had happened you'd have known by now.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (27 August 2010):
Having been in a LDR, I know how you feel. But it could be anything; maybe he's been caught up with work, family matters, maybe there was a personal emergency. I'm guessing the two of you talk everyday, otherwise not hearing from him in three days is nothing. Just be patient for now and I'm sure he'll let you know what happened when you hear from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): I am not a man but I am In an LDR for 2 yrs.Do you trust him?If yes then don't worry.If he isn't online for 3 days then there must be some important reason.When he comes back,tell him how much you missed him and you were so worried.Don't start an arguement.Let him come up with the explanation himself.Don't demand it.I am sure he'll be back soon.
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reader, msm4ever +, writes (27 August 2010):
Give him some space. If he's pulling back you need to as well. If he's not calling you, texting, emailing or anything then your rule right now is to do the same. DO NOT CONTACT HIM.I know its hard. It's really hard to do. But it's worth it.He'll realize you have a life outside of him and he'll start to wonder why he hasn't heard from YOU.Not contacting him shouts self-confidence and I assure you from experience that if he does still have feelings for you, then you will hear from him soon enough.It might take only one or two days of No Contact, sometimes it might take a few weeks depending on ya'lls relationship.If there's something still there he will definitely be in contact. And after yall are back to talking regularly again just keep that in mind- Don't call him so much. It just shows him that he has you wrapped around his finger and then he'll get lazy again.Just my two cents :)
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