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anonymous
writes:I've been seeing someone from work for the last three months or so, its going really well but we've kept it on the down low as he was my supervisor. Although now I've been promoted and no longer under his supervision it doesn't seem as bad but anyway we decided to keep it quiet for the time being, which I have no problem with. The thing is we've kept things really quiet. Like I've only told my two closest friends and he's only told his best friend, whose currently on holiday in New York may I add.The thing is I left his yesterday morning to go shopping with my sister. When I left he kissed me goodbye everything was completely normal. The plan was for us to see each other again that night but I said it probably wouldn't be until later on as I wanted to visit family etc. Therefore we had planned to see each other later that same day but no times etc were confirmed(we usually see each other pretty much every day unless one of us is busy).The thing is I haven't heard from him since I left the house and that was about 30 hours ago. I texted him last night saying I'd be over in an hour but he didn't respond so I didn't go. I then rang him around 11pm last night just to check everything was ok - his phone rang but no answer. I then rang again an hour ago and still no answer.I know 30 hours isn't a lot but its so unlike him, he's usually very texty and has never just ignored me. He also seems quite smitten with me and I really do think the relationship will go somewhere. So i'm really worried.The only mutual friends we have are work friend's so I don't want to ask any of them. He's not due back at work till Wednesday. The only friend of his that knows about us is on holiday. He lives alone, he moved up here for work so his family all live down south. I just don't know what to do. I could find some of his other friends on facebook if needed but would rather not. He's told me that before me he used to enjoy spending time alone and would often go for days without speaking to anyone at all. This makes me think one of 2 things. 1. We've spent a lot of time together lately and he just wants time alone. 2. If something did happen no one would know because he doesn't speak to anyone other than me regularly enough.I also think if something did happen no one think about contacting me - other than this one friend.He hasnt logged onto his facebook account or updated his twitter (he's usually a big fan).My friends have just said wait it out as it hasn't been that long - but Im just so worried.What should I do, just wait it out? At what point do I seek help and how should I go about this? I'm so worried but just don't want to cause any unnecessary drama.
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reader, massage  +, writes (20 November 2013):
 Thanks god he's oky! thanks for giving us an update, I don't know him and I was worried...Next time trust your instinct :) don't feel awful, you asked for help on here...and you went over his house Chapeau!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2013): Hi, I'm the OP. Just wanted to say that I took your advice and went round his home, no answer. However turned out he had been run over on the Saturday so I did need to worry! I feel so awful! I didnt find out until early hours of Monday morning, his phone got crushed so when he came round he had no way of contacting me (didnt know my number by memory). The hospital contacted his parents and his sister found me on facebook and let me know.
I've been in to see him and thankfully he's going to be ok. Just has a broken arm, a bump to the head and a few scratches.
Sage to say a few more people know about us now - not that either of us mind
Just thought I would let you all know, Thanks for the help
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reader, massage +, writes (10 November 2013):
GO over his house now! He could be hurt!!!!
if he was oky tell them he should have answered his phone, and not the scare the shir out of us!
GO now ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2013): I'd knock on his door. It's nothing to do with you being clingy just concern seeing as he lives alone and his phone rings out and he hasn't logged onto his social sites.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2013): If you can have arc with a guy, then you can certainly go over there and knock on his door. You have every right to make a big deal about being ignored. It's not ok and it's good to nip the behavior early.
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