A
female
age
51-59,
*ayann
writes:hi i am back again. I have a new question about whether or not others have noticed any behavior problems with their kids when they began dating someone steady? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Mayann +, writes (16 April 2011):
Mayann is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very helpful stuff....
A
female
reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (15 April 2011):
 :) my bad! Yes children have a hard time when parents begin to seem serious about someone. Their whole world as they know it feels threatened. Make sure you spend one on one time with them and try to keep communication open. They have had you to themselves for a while and it's what they are comfortable with. When that balance is threatened, they don't know how to handle it and they often act out in other ways. Even as adults, sometimes we do this when faced with potentially big changes, but hopefully we deal with it on a more mature level. Give it time and try to talk with them about what's going on.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): Sorry to hear this. Yes, counseling is the right answer. When I was younger I too often got into fights because I was physically abused by I'll say family... and that had a profound effect on my behavior because any time I got made fun of for being fat or anything about me, I put a kid on his back without teeth or a bruise on his face. Now, Id throw the weight bench on him instead as my finishing move lol ;)... counseling did help clear a lot of my issues up and ive since resolved the anger I once had and have for the most part used it productively. He needs to see someone and you need to sit in on with him and the counselor. Great idea! I hope things get better here.
...............................
A
female
reader, Mayann +, writes (15 April 2011):
Mayann is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your thoughts however very useful later in my 10 year olds life. I'm sorry I was not clear. I meant if I was dating steady and my child started developing poor behavior. today he got suspended for fighting after another child had pushed him. he has many verbal arguments with his classmates..I am very upset and may consider a psychologist to figure out what is going on with him. he was never having these problems in the past. I notice he does get involved with other kids issues in a helpful way but none the less butting in where he was not asked to. almost like he feels responsible for them. we talked about this and he is working on it.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): If anything, kids are young and impressionable so whoever they hang around, they could tend to develop that persons behavior patterns which is why its good for parents to monitor kids' dating, which it sounds like youre doing. I was a little rascal yes but not wild or nuts after i became steady with a girl at 18. When you see your kid going away from how he/she was raised like they go to crazy parties, theyre lying, they develop a bad attitude, then id say thats clear grounds to question who they are spending their time with. Good luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, DenimandLace44 +, writes (15 April 2011):
Oh yes! It happens with every one of them. I have 7 kiddos and the 5th is now "dating" and "in love." my advice is too stay very involved and don't be one of those parents who believes everything they say. The best of kids will make life changing "mistakes" if given the right circumstances. Hormones in teens cant be trusted.....
...............................
|
