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writes:My fiancé has called me by his ex-wife's name several times and they have been divorced for 9 years now.We have been seeing each other for four years. He even gets our vacations together mixed up.The other night he remarked, when we were watching tv, and a vacation commercial came up and he said to me, We have been there before. I said, No, we have not. Then he remembered that it was a vacation he took with his ex-wife early on in their marriage with their kids.Even his parents have called me by his ex-wife's name, and they can't stand her. We were talking on the phone to them and his mother said to her husband, Larry and Carmen are coming by. My fiancé said What did you say Mom? Then she got silent and couldn't even remember my name. He had to remind her and tell his mother what my name was!I feel like I need a name tag on, but I doubt even that would help.It gets irritating. Sometimes I feel crushed. Sometimes I am able to laugh it off. But, it happens a lot. On top of that he has called my by some of ex-girlfriends names too.I don't call my fiancé by my ex-husband's name or past ex-boyfriends.Do I just let this go or is there another way to deal with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2014): If it makes you feel better, my own mom and dad sometimes call me by my brother's name and confuse events. It happens.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (2 July 2014):
 I've done it, it was just something that happened. My ex husband existed, my past cant be wiped out with hitting a delete button ...........
Its just the way his brain is wired, he might get out of the habit if you keep pulling him up on it, but it might also make you seem like a insecure nag, several times during a 4 year period doesn't seem to bad, while several times over a 4 week period would.
Save your energy, try and let it pass.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (2 July 2014):
 Guilty as charged. And my most recent ex was in 1981. It's not like I'm pining for her or anything, just that her name is stuck in some little crevice in my brain.
My in-laws call my sister-in-law by the wrong name all the time. They lose sleep over it, but sometimes it just happens.
I'm not sure what you can do except point it out when it happens and tell him how it makes you feel.
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