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writes:This is a little different. Have you ever been betrayed by someone you trusted. This can be a spouse,friend, family etc.... tell how they betrayed you and if you ever forgave them. what did you do after the betrayal Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): Oh yes, by family and friends. Like others have said, at some point most people get betrayed, if you don't you are a very lucky person.
You have to figure out who you can forgive and who you can't, I think it all depends who they are and what they have done.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 May 2010):
A girlfriend cheated on my on my birthday with her ex. WE broke up immediately, and I spent a lot of time just focusing on my own life. I've not spoken to her since, and left it all in the past because I've found a much better person. I don't think you get over being betrayed, but you can come to terms with it and move on. I did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): I think everyone has been betrayed and betrayed people.
For me it depends on the nature of the relationship. I've never been betrayed by family and I have been betrayed a couple of times by good friends. I always broke off contact when that happened, not permanently but they had to regain my trust and I too have been on the other side, I've had to regain the trust of friends.
The thing is, you learn what you can and can't trust people with, I believe no one is 100% trustworthy, it doesn't work that way because nobody is perfect. I mean who can truly say they trust themselves completely I know I can't, there are certain things in my personality, behaviours and actions I know I will do if the conditions are right.
I have a base group of friends that I trust complicitly but each to varying degrees. For example I have one friend that has a loose tongue, he doesn't mean to but he has a tendency to tell people things he's not supposed to talk about. So it's up to me not to put him the position where he could betray me that way by not telling him stuff like that, he is however very trustworthy with money and I also know he's completely trustworthy with my girlfriends etc.
I have another friend that is trustworthy with everything but women, he gets too affectionate with his friends girlfriends when he's drunk, but always regrets it and is a saint when sober, you can tell him anything and you know it will never be repeated. Again I don't put him in positions where he can betray me.
I guess my whole point is that no one including ourselves can be completely trusted, we all make mistakes and it's better to learn who can be trusted with what and spread your trust amongst a group of people to fulfill all your emotional and social needs than to put all your trust into one person. That includes spouses.
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