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writes:Hey Everyone,sorry for the lenqth in advance.But I'm a fifteen year old qirl and I've been datinq my boyfriend for three months. We are very much in love with eachother. For the past couple of days I've really been thinkinq about sex. I've been ready to have it for a while but I've always thouqht you should wait for the riqht person. and I've been thinkinq if my boyfriend is the riqht person.Now we have a qreat relationship and we always talk to eachother about everythinq so last niqht I brouqht up sex to him. I told him that I was thinkinq about it and I'm REALLY considerinq losinq my virqinity to him. and my boyfriend had always told me he thinks sex is somethinq that brinqs two people toqether and makes a relationship stronqer and he would wait for me as lonq as he had to.I just wanna make sure I'm makinq the riqht descision. I think I'm very mature for my aqe and I'm a smart qirl and I know about STDs and preqnancy and condoms. and I have this thinq were I want my first time to be special for both of us. My boyfriend lost his virqinity already but when we have sex I wanna make sure it means somethinq. and I wanna make sure our relationship qets stronqer from this. I've seen so many situations where people have sex and basically fall apart the next day. I don't want that to happen.Am I makinq the riqht descision or should we wait a while?Any advice is helpful.Thank you for takinq the time to read and answer this. and Happy New Years =D
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Hi there,
I know others have given you sound advice, but here's my thing: If you can wait at least a year to see if the relationship's a strong one and if you two are willing to practice safe sex, I say go for it. This guy may turn out to be your only boyfriend or only one of a handful you have in your entire life; the only way you'll know how solid your relationship's going to be is to see where you guys are in a year. In the meantime, relish and linger over hand-holding (which used to be very intimate!) and kisses and running fingers through each others' hair and long conversations and other things that can create intimacy between you two without having sex.
I wish you two continued love and success in this relationship!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): Please wait--you can do it! :) ! If you have ANY hesitancy, doubt, anxiousness, fear...you're Not ready. Don't put this pressure on yourself. My daughter is 17 and has waited, her friends admire her for that
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): Hey LilSis,
Please check out these following links.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-stay-a-vigin-but-my.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-guys-like-innocent-girls.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): I waited a year with a girl I thought was "the one"..A year later she was just different and we broke up..
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 December 2008):
 A very wise decision on your part. Now you guys can relax and just have fun getting to know each other and making memories.
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reader, FashionistaBaybee +, writes (30 December 2008):
FashionistaBaybee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank yu for yur responses everyone. & I've thouqht it throuqh & decided to wait. as much as he may be ''the one'' I think that all of yu are riqht & three months is a drop in the bucket =D maybe we will wait a year. & come next october if were still toqether & physically & emotionally ready we will have sex & we will both be the leqal aqe of sixteen =D
thanks all =D
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reader, prenezmoila +, writes (29 December 2008):
 You should probably wait longer. I jumped into sex at 15, but I did it with a guy I knew wasn't emotionally committed, which in a way was good because I never developed an emotional connection to him. With someone you do have a connection with, you should wait or you'll get broken. 15 year old boys think solely with their shafts, remember that. If you tell him you want to have sex, he's not going to argue with you. I'd say stick it out, but if you're thinking about it, it's likely you will end up doing it. I wish you luck.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (29 December 2008):
wait wait wait
you are only 15. i dont think at 15 you are emotionally ready for sex. it can bring alot of problems. also would you feel ready and responsible for a baby? as lets face it contraception is not 100% safe. so if you are going to have sex you need to think about some of the outcomes. not to mention STD's. so seriously wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): 3 months really isn't long and i think that you should be able to wait at least sixteen years before you do it- seems like you could end up regretting it just persevere and be that little more patient how old is this guy because if he's already had sex youve only known him 3 months may be a player-yeah you know about stds have you checked at the clinic he's clean your health is the most important
at the end of the day your decision obvs as long as you know that your mind and your body wants to remember if you have any doubt you dont want to remember be brave just say no there's no rush whatsoever maybe try and salvage your childhood for another year up to you xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 December 2008):
The relationship should AREADY be strong before you get intimate with someone. Three months is a drop in the bucket as far as relationships go, let it stand the test of time.
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reader, Pink lover +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Hi,
Im 14 and i havent got a bf yet but when i went out with this boy i really wanted to have a conversation with him about sex and to see wether he was ready for it. But i know what you mean by you want to make it special moment i think everyone does.
I think that you should wait a little bit longer and sit down with him and talk through again wether he wont just forget about it hours or the day after and wether he will make it special for him and you.
I hope this advice was helpful in some way
Have a Happy New Year.xxx
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