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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi all, my boyfriend finds it weird that I hang out with my male friends (I only have 3 male friends). He says he can get jealous.I don't hang out with my male friends one on one. It is always in a group of guys and girls and thus far the only activities we do are having meals together. Even so, it is not on a regular basis and the most we do it is once a month. Neither do I text them regularly or discuss my relationship problems with them. If I do, it is regarding school work. I'm not sure if my feelings of being puzzled feel justified. Have I in any way behaved in a manner that makes him feel jealous or possessive? What can I do to resolve this? My friends are excited to meet him but he is not keen on meeting them.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 August 2015):
 I don't think you are doing anything weird here. And I do think the sooner he meets them the sooner he will "get over" whatever is bothering him.
I have always has plenty of male friends and always made it a priority for my BF to meet them. I had one BF who didn't like me "always" hanging out with guys and who always made up excuses as to why he couldn't met them, always trying to pressure me into not hanging out with any off them, and yes it was usually in a bigger mixed group so I actually dismissed his "demands".
YOU know if you are being inappropriate or not.Don't make this BF of your make you start to doubt your moral compass here.
I would NOT give up my friendships for a guy I'm dating, certainly NOT when they are absolutely appropriate.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (7 August 2015):
 Something seems off here.
Why doesnt he want to meet them? From what you describe, you seem to have a perfectly normal and healthy relationship with your male friends. I see no reason for him to feel insecure. Its not that you are particularly very friendly with any single one who you hang out with or have the kind of relationship that would raise eyebrows. In fact, if anything, your boyfriend's reactions are questionable.
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (7 August 2015):
 No, I don't think you are doing anything inappropriate here. It seems odd that he's not keen to meet your friends. This is not a good sign. Having friends is a good thing, so he should be happy that you have them.
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