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writes:Hey guys. I'll try and make this as short as possible. I went on a date with a girl I met on tinder the other night. It was my first ever date so I don't really have anything to compare it to, but it seemed to go reasonably well. It was a bit odd because she was late and then ended up coming with a friend as they were planning on going out after our date (she had told me before the date that she would be going out with friends after it but not that she would be coming with one!)Anyway, as it turned out she asked if I wanted to go out with them so I did. We had a good time and even kissed. It was quite alcohol fuelled though to be fair. I got her number and texted her as we parted ways. She then text me first in the morning and we have been texting fairly regularly since, maybe 2 or 3 times within a day. Her replies were always quite short and one worded in comparison to mine but she would still reply. Given I thought it seemed ok to do so and she had shown what I perceived as some sort of interest in me I basically asked for a 2nd date to which I have had no reply and it's been 2 days now. Since sending her that text she did tag me on a couple of photos from that night out. So my question is have I read it wrong in her interest in me? (She said quite a few times on the date that she loved how we had a lot in common, although like I said we were both quite drunk) Or is it that I asked her on another date too quickly? (The date was on Thursday) Or was it the way I asked? (This is how i asked:"But if you have some time free at some point it would be fun to hang out again if you were up for it?"). And if she really wasn't interested in me or a 2nd date why would she have tagged me in photos well after I sent her that text? To me it seems if you weren't up for a 2nd date you would make no "connection" with that person even if it was something as little as that photo tag! And I doubt that she wouldn't have read the text at that point as it was almost a day after I originally sent it. I'm sorry, I just have no idea with these kinda things as I'm new to it all. Thanks for your help though people.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 July 2015):
 Not really weird. If you like her, I'd call her. Just say you have been busy but thought of her and wanted to see if she wanted to go out on a date with you.
Now she may claim she doesn't know if she has time/is available and if she makes up some semi-bogus excuse, AT LEAST you will know to not waste any more time or energy on her.
Little side not though... Tindr is not really a "dating app" it's a "hook up app". HUGE difference. So if she is NOT interested.. I would perhaps look else where (read: not on Tindr)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2015): So even though I've kinda asked her out already and she hasnt replied for 3 days now, you think I should call her after 1 date? Is that not a bit weird?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 June 2015):
You CALL her, like SVC said, to ask her out. NOT over text. Just like you don't break up over text.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 June 2015):
 I realize lots of people text all the time. I have one or two friends i do it with but never for something critical.
Like ASKING a girl on a DATE.
last year in August I sent my husband a text. Had it been something like "hey wanna go hang out" it would not have been answered and i would have been hurt...
in NOVEMBER I was standing next to my hubby and his phone went off. He got a TEXT. FROM ME. SENT...you guessed it... IN AUGUST. I learned that text messages are not sent on their own. they are piggy backed on other data packets on a network.
NEVER ever use a text for something IMPORTANT
Pick up the phone and call her and say "hey I had fun the other night would you like to get a bite to eat next Saturday evening?" or Something like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2015): Original Poster here.
Thanks for your reply.
I didn't think the tag meant anything, I just thought if it was me and I didn't want to go out on another date with a girl I would just sort of stop any acknowledgement that I had been on a date with them. But maybe that's just me.
So do you think, even though I've sent her that text already, it isn't too desperate to go and text her again actually asking her out given I've already sort of done it?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 June 2015):
ASK her out on a PROPER date. Not a " I would be cool to you know hang out some time again.. mmmk..."
However, tagging you in a photo is not really a huge indication for interest in you. You were there, hence she tagged you, instead of her friend Bob who couldn't make it.. You know what I mean?
But DO ask her out on a REAL date, not a hang out. IF she doesn't get back to you with in let's say 24 hours? I'd take it as she isn't interested and I'd try another girl.
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