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*trawberriesAndCream
writes:I don't know if i've had an orgasm.I've had a few boyfs and we've had sex, and there's been a massive build up, he's been down on me or whatever, and it's like build up build up build up and then it's like a little explosion but only 'downstairs'.Some girls on here go on about screaming and screaming and orgasming for 3 minutes and feeling it through their arms and legs and i dont know if what i've had is an orgasm or not, and if it isn't i dont know how to get there.Help pleaseS and C, 20, x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): That's the clitoral orgasm for you lol! The big ones that last ages are g spot orgasms. ( if you dont know what a g spot is, google it) I have never experienced a g spot orgasm. Or even found my g spot. I know how you feel with all these women descriding this amazing leg shaking, screaming full body, long lasting experience. I just remind myself that some women can't orgasm AT ALL so in a way Im lucky. Some women even complain that they're orgasms are "too intense" or "last too long". They don't realise how lucky they are!Also if you have got your ideas from porn, just remember that it's all acting.Some girls say that theirs just got better with time and experience, Ive been masterbating and sexually active for years, my orgasms haven't got any better yet but they still could...and so could yours so just keep trying there isn't really much more you can do!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 Maybe you had a small one? Have you ever had one on your own through masturbation? If you experiment with having orgasms on your own you will fifure out when you've had one for sure, and then you can compare that with what you get in bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): If you do have an orgasm, trust me honey, you wud know it!!Its a feeling like no other...and leaving you gasping for breath!! Doesn't have to last for 3 mins, but even if its just for a few seconds, you'l feel your body curl up, this intense surge of pleasure inside you...its AWESOME!!
How can you get there...simple. Try clitoral stimulation. Your clitoris is a small nub of flesh which contains a high concentration of nerve endings which make it highly sensitive.
When you're well lubricated, try rubbing your clitoris slowly with your finger, and build it up. If your boyfriend does this for you, and combines it with sucking your breasts, it might get you there faster. He can also give you oral sex, and you can guide him on to it...once he goes down on you, your instincts will take over, and you'll experience a mind blowing orgasm.
But most importantly, try to be relaxed. Dont focus too much on trying to feel the pleasure. If you make it a chore, it'l be a disaster. Enjoy the togetherness, the warmth...the orgasm will follow!
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