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writes:I have refrained from any kind of sexual relationship with my "boyfriend" if I can call him that. We have know each other 27 years. Both went off and had children for other people and rekindled again in 2000 and now have an 8 year old.However since then:- I have never met him mum or members of his family apart from a few kids.- He never takes me any where unless I suggest.- I am out of work an asked him to help with maintenance. He said outright that he cant, nothing at all!- He has made no effort at really spending time with us. When here it is as short as possible.- We do not talk about marriage.- He continuous takes the micky out of me commenting on my tummy and other sensitive matters about my body.Any I right to have fallen out of love with him? Do you blame me for starting an emotional relationship with someone I worked with for whom I can not stop thinking about? My boyfriend use to be the one I could not stop thinking about but he has really turned me of and I do not love him any more. I try but I cant stop thinking about this other man.Any comments appreciated.Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 Are your right to have fallen out of love with him?
Sure. It happens, and from what you describe it's certainly understandable.
No, I don't blame you for starting this emotional relationship with someone else, even though it is very wrong.
You need to talk to your BF about this. Tell him what his behavior is doing to your relationship. He needs to know, and he should be given the chance to show you he is the man you fell in love with. However, people rarely change, so this relationship is likely doomed. It would be good to prepare for that outcome, just in case. Still, I'd hate to say walk away from such a relationship without at least making an effort to save it first.
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reader, Justtryingtohelp  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 He seems a bit too private considering how long you have known him, and insensitive with the comments on your body entirely which I hope you try not to take to heart because he shouldn't be doing it at all.It doesn't seem wrong that you don't love him now, you're noticing a lot of seemingly irregular things in your relationship.I'm not sure what to say on the other man matter as this hasn't had much written about it.I think it's wrong to continue the relationship with your boyfriend if you don't feel for him anymore, but I understand that you have a child and it's not as simple as leaving.I DO think you shouldn't carry on with this man if you do not feel for him and he does not make effort with you, but the ending it part may have to be done lightly.Sorry for not being able to have more helpful words.Good luck xxx
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