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writes:I am a 19 yr old girl who has always prided myself on the idea of being a virgin when I got married. I got super horny tonight, though, and used a cucumber. I didnt notice until afterwards that I had bled. Does this mean I have lost my virginity? Or will I still bleed my first time having sex? I wasn't worried because everyone says it will hurt when I finally do have sex and it really didnt hurt. Of course, I'm uncomfortable now but I'm hoping I am still a virgin. I don't think I will ever do that again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2012): Still a virgin, I suppose, and these women who say your vagina will change to the shape of a cucumber are so wrong. Unless you used a cucumber everyday and never did kegels your vagina will always tighten back up. It is a muscle. If their comments were true how on earth do you think women with children would have enjoyable sex after having their birth canals stretched out 5 inches for a human to be pushed through? Come on guys do a little fucking research. and also personal experience, my fiancé and I, who I later had a child with, have experimented with a cucumber before. I did feel a little "wrecked" afterwards but kegeled for a day and was back to normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2012): No, you have not lost your virginity. However, your vagina will adjust to what goes into it. You might want to take this into account as most men's penes are rather smaller around than a cucumber.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (12 September 2011):
Of course you are a virgin. Now you have a problem though as you are going to have to be careful to wait for a guy who can match up to your chosen salad product! And not just in the size and endurence category, probably no guy will match that, just try and wait for a guy who will care more for you afterwards than your well loved vegetable. Until then you are better off with your vegetable friend, but note the hygine comments :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 Another idea, or more like a rule, is that if you absolutely must use veggies, have a condom on them. This will make sure you do not "lose" parts of the veggie inside of you, or scratch yourself, and everything will be clean.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 September 2011):
 I actually know a girl who went to the hospital to get a pickle removed from her vagina because she too was using a veggie for masturbation. So it's a BAD idea to masturbate with produce.
To echo everyone else, yes you are still a virgin.
For masturbation, you can use an electric toothbrush, vibrators from sex shops, or even your clean hands. Also it's a good idea to wash/sterilize your toys after each use to avoid infections.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2011): honey, people break their hymens with tampons.. and via gymnastics or horseback riding or other physical sports. your hymen breaking has nothing to do with your virginity, which is having sex for the first time. Plus, everyone is different. you might not have even bled your first time. I didnt bleed til a couple weeks after I started having sex. Plus, now you wont have to worry about that annoying and painful little detail anymore.
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (9 September 2011):
 I agree with others; you have NOT lost your virginity.
However, I would urge caution in inserting food or other non-sterile objects into yourself. That way lies infection.
Don't stop "playing", just get some toys from a sex shop - online, if you are shy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2011): Losing your virginity is having sex with a man - not a salad vegetable - for the first time.Yes, it sounds like you punctured the hymen. But this won't necessarily happen only once. When I first had sex, it didn't really bleed at all. When I had another boyfriend later, that is when it bled. So it kind of depends. Sounds like you went for it with the cucumber, though ... hope he called you the next morning ... ; ) ... sorry, but it is funny really. In my opinion: you broke the physical seal to your vagina, but of course you haven't lost your virginity. You will do that when you first have sex. And you may bleed again then. And anyhow, in a way it will be nicer because you won't be worrying so much about any physical pain.Winner all round. Don't worry. It is fine. And a good story to tell someone in years to come ...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 September 2011):
 still a virgin..... did you peel the cucumber before you made the salad?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (9 September 2011):
 You are still a virgin psycologicaly but as far as bleeding again,nope it's a one time thing with the hymen. No worries..."he'll" never know if you just be quiet about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2011): I dont know why all this needs to be so complicated. I just want to be able to provide pleasure to myself..
Author btw
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 September 2011):
 Too funny sexlessintheuk! There went the old keyboard!
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reader, chigirl +, writes (9 September 2011):
This comes down to a matter of definition. How do you define virginity? Intact hymen? If so then what about the girls who aren't born with a hymen, or have a small one that doesn't "break" when you have sex like a full hymen will? Or those who break it through activities or the use of tampons?Virginity to me is not about a hymen. To me a virgin is someone who has never had sex with a man, or intercourse if you want to be more specific. It's not about the "popping of the cherry", it's about the full experience of being naked and intimate with ANOTHER PERSON.So, to me, you're still very much a virgin as you were on your own and not with a man, and you haven't had a man's penis inside of you. The feeling is quite different than a cucumber.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2011): Totally agree in you didnt loose your virginity. Bleeding is not necessary after the wedding. If you enjoy penetration with such object you can't imagine how good an actual penis is. Don't wait for marriage!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2011): i completely agree with the other responses...virginity is physical and emotional...physical is when the hymen breaks and that can happen coz of a number of activities...2nd is emotional and that is when you will have actual sex with a man...so dont worry....and play safe
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (9 September 2011):
 A hymen does not equal virginity.
You can only lose your virginity when you have sex. Masturbating IS. NOT. SEX.
Period.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (9 September 2011):
 Interesting question. You possibly penetrated your hymen if indeed you was previously virgin, but loss of virginity only occurs when penetrated vaginally by a man's penis. Females often experience hymen breakage via a number of activities or accidents, including sports, horseback or bicycle riding, falls, even exercising . . . but insertion by an object as you described may break your hymen as well. That would NOT qualify by most any definition as "loss of virginity," however.
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