A
female
age
30-35,
*enahbridge
writes:This guy and I have been hooking up for several months (since we first met) but for the past few weeks I have realised I do really like him and want it to progress. We always get on really well and he has told me he likes me. The problem is that his ex has come to visit him for a week. It's clear they are still close but they were acting as just friends. She is gorgeous and that has made me feel a little insecure, also she is really really nice. I almost wish she was horrible so I could have a reason to dislike her! Although that is immature I know. I don't think I have made it clear enough to him that I like him, because a friend told me that he said he liked me but wasn't sure what I felt about him. Now I am worried that I have left it too late, and with his ex staying at his place I am feeling very insecure. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks
View related questions:
his ex, immature, insecure Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, lenahbridge +, writes (14 June 2013):
lenahbridge is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the replies, really helps to see it from another view. I am sure I can last a week! So I will do that and see what the situation is like then and go from there.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): "Today, not tomorrow, nor the day after tomorrow is where your life is, where your life starts. Take good care of yourself, begin doing what you want to do now. We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand and melting like a snowflake…”
*Sir Francis Bacon*
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): I don't think its too late, you just have to pause for a minute. Talking to him about it now that his ex is in town makes you seem a little jealous but once she leaves, if she is still his ex, you should definitely take that chance and tell him your feelings and hopefully you will get some clarity about his!
Good Luck (:
...............................
A
male
reader, Darrell Goodliffe +, writes (13 June 2013):
 Hmmmm I am not sure its as immature as you think. People very rarely think or feel things without any tint of self interest, you want this guy, you dont want somebody else to have him. Sounds like an a-typical, human, reaction. From what you are saying you may not have been clear enough about your feelings, having said that, his own feelings might not be as clear as you would hope, especially given the fact he is having his ex over.
I think you have to play this one cool and see how things pan out with the ex. If there is a window of opportunity after that then I think you need to say something because if you dont you will always have this huge 'WHAT IF' hanging over you and you will struggle to move on from this. Good luck x
...............................
|
