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anonymous
writes:Since I started working in my office 5 months ago I'm getting along quite well with the director. He's single, 7 years older and always very kind to me. He's very polite but doesn't flirt with me in an offensive way. Some days ago I noticed him staring at my bust. He was embarrassed and looked away. Yesterday we had a conversation about the office. Nothing special, but he told me that he really likes me and that he wants me to be happy. What does this mean? Could it be more than friendship? Or am I just overestimating these words?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2013): You've only asked about his feelings. At no point have you talked about your own feelings. So you presumably don't have strong feelings for him. He sounds like he fancies you. But bearing in mind that you don't have that strong bond and he is your boss, it's not worth considering him romantically.You've got a lot more to lose than gain.
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reader, Jancee  +, writes (13 June 2013):
It is fine to admire others but staring at your breasts at work is inappropriate behaviour on any level and by becoming embarrassed I think your boss knows this. It is hard to suggest exactly what he means by his words without context, as they are quite ambiguous so it is impossible to determine exactly what he meant. Being a Director, means that he is obviously a clever man and is avoiding being direct which could be to protect his career. Tread really carefully, relationships in the workplace can become very difficult if things don't work out and as he is a Director, his job is not as disposable as yours. Your Boss is supposed to be kind to you, most of my bosses have been kind to me but be careful not to let your crush/feelings for him confuse this. You should seriously consider all of the factors before you consider whether this is or is not something. Five months in a working environment is not enough time to know someone properly and if your boss was staring at your chest, there is always a chance that he is just after one thing so be sure it is what you want before you go down that road.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): This whole story is one gigantic red flag!!
1.) HE IS YOUR BOSS!!!
2.) Catching the man staring at your lady parts ? that's typical male behavior but at the same time, its not something to just brush off. Obviously you got the goods and hes liking them
3.) He likes you and he wants you to be happy? more like he likes what he sees and wants a piece of that.
and last but not least
4,) HE IS YOUUUR BOSSSSSS
that would be the biggest mistake ever because there is a 50/50 chance it is or isn't going to work! and from the sound of it, he wants a fling, not to mention your job would definitely be on the line.. Think long and hard about that one, I would advise against it.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): Sorry but he sounds like a maniac to me.
when you said you caught him staring at your bust.
he surely likes you in a malicious way.
its up to you what would you do about it.
but if i were you, forget it because, eventually its not going to work.
His your boss.
When things get bitter who's job is at stake?
Yours.
So be wise.
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