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writes:I work in a large factory with many different departments. I am now in an office (within factory floors) but was previously just one of the normal labourers….which is where I met this guy.He isn’t from the UK like me and his English really isn’t the greatest but I like him. He is incredibly sweet and he liked me from the first day he met me however how do I go about telling him I am interested.Oh I must also add he is 13/14 years older than me. But age doesn’t matter right.Story within this question however goes….I like to take my breaks when they get theirs (don’t always get them at the same time but I can most of the time) because I get along well with the people in that department, I enjoy talking to them. But one guy who happens to be a year older than me…he is the ‘comedian’ of the department and he always hugs me and is affectionate with me in front of this other guy. He always calls on him so he will look over and teases him etc and I always tell him to stop because it’s such a shame, however I don’t think any of them have realised that I actually like this guy.Anyways he used to ask me how I was everyday, smile at me call me his princess and other cute gestures and now I get nothing…he acknowledges me when no-one is around, which is not often, but tries to ignore me now. Honestly it rather hurts as I like him but I don’t know how to tell him that I do like him. I wish I could walk up to him and ask him if he would like to have tea/coffee/lunch whatever but how would I know if he is still interested. Do you think I’ve maybe hurt him thanks to this other guy who won’t stop teasing him. Anyways any advice on this would be great!!Oh and this would not be mixing work with pleasure or however you would like to say it....I can totally avoid this guy and never have to see him during work if I chose...I just happen to clearly want to see him so take my breaks when I know theirs is.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 It is obvious he did like you, but with this other teasing him he has giving up because he probably feels like you guys are making a fool out of him. He probably thinks because he is older than you that he doesn't have a chance so he is trying to avoid you to try and get you out of his head. You have nothing to lose here so if you like him, just go up to him and ask him would he like to meet for dinner some evening or go for a drink. Just pluck up the courage to do it or else you will never know, good luck.
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reader, mammaboo +, writes (24 November 2011):
 If you never ask then you will never know!
If you are afraid of the knock back well that comes with the territory, atleast you will know he is not interested.
He may be sensitive to other peoples reactions and perhaps he feels you are not interested in him. He may even feel an idiot for thinking that you were even interested in him atall.so yeah, you need to ask him for coffee. If he says no its ok, Say well i really would like to have a chat with you and get to know you better. See what he says!
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 Hi,
I think that the older guy that you like had a little crush on you, but because the younger guy hugs you, and jokes with you the guy that you like thinks you have mutual feelings for the younger guy, because you allow him to continue his behavior.
First, I think you should talk to the younger guy. Tell him that the hugs, and the jokes make you feel uncomfortable around your co-workers. Explain to him that you don't have anything against him, understand that he likes to joke around. Hope he can understand you, and no hard feelings.
I think you should talk to the older guy that you like. Just casually ask him about his day, and if he would like to get coffee/tea/lunch together. Just ask. It's ok, and you have nothing to loose. I think he's avoiding you because he thinks you have feelings for the younger guy.
It's better to know, instead of wondering, and holding your feelings. To me, he's from another country, so he might be very shy. Also, because of his age it might make him insecure. Just ask him!!!!
Good luck
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