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anonymous
writes:Hello!I'm a sexually confident 22 year old. I've masturbated for as long as I can remember almost, so I'm no stranger to my body. I was perfectly satisfied until I started talking to my female friends a few years ago when I came to an odd realisation - I don't actually think I've had an orgasm.It always feels good (obviously) but there is never a precise moment I can pinpoint like "yep, I just orgasmed right there". I also understand that many people feel like their bodies won't give them more sexual pleasure after that release, but I could literally go on for hours and get the same consistent little bursts of pleasure. I'm confused about it now, does anyone have any advice for me? Honestly I've entered into masturbation sessions with the sole intent of reaching that climax moment, but I find its the same each time, and as much as I enjoy it I've become worried that I'm missing out and there's something wrong. Previous boyfriends have complained about "never being able to make me come" even though some of the most sexually stimulating experiences I've ever had have been with a partner.What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2013): I too asked this question when I was younger. What a wise woman said to me was 'if you have to ask then you haven't'
The first time I had one, a couple of years later I was in no doubt.
What I would like to say to you is that there is nothing wrong with you. There are contradicting theories whether all women can orgasm or not. You either can or you can't. But stressing about it / feeling inadequate will not help you relax enough for it to happen. So find out what other women do to achieve orgasm, try it but without too many expectations as that decreases your pleasure!
Love your body the way it is. Lavish it with pleasure and health and all-round well being. Have a lover who is patient and makes you feel completely at ease. Then just enjoy.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 November 2013):
Sounds like your previous boyfriends were newbs in bed. Men rarely make a woman climax, she needs to take the matter in her own hands and then teach him. If you have to ask, then no, you havent had an orgasm. But you will, eventually, so dont worry. They are just hard to figure out the first few times. I recommend a vibrator or a masssage shower down there. Hands alone could never get me there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013): Its such an intense feeling when you have an orgazm that I don't know how you can possibly not recognize it and having doubts. After orgazm you don't want to touch yourself anymore for at least for awhile. If you still have a desire to touch yourself, it's hardly possible that you had orgazm.
Your boyfriends might be right. For you it was an intimacy with a human being, that's why it was so pleasurable for you, but it's not nessesesary that you had orgazms with them. My point it is that is very much impossible not to know when you orgazm.
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