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writes:I met a guy online, he came to my country to meet me, so we had dated several times in one month time. Though I admit, I am not attracted to him physically, his personality turns me on, all of man's personality I have been wishing for is with him.He said he will come again October to see me and he has already booked his flight.As I have stated above, I am not attracted to him which is probably the reason why I can't be proud to my friends that I have met this person and tell them about him. And I can't even voluntarily say he looks awesome with his piture or he looks great today. But I wonder why I still like talking to him via video calling sharing stories about our day to day activities, and we talk almost everyday when both are available.Sometimes, I even feel jealous about his lady friends and worried when he doesn't text or call in two days or more.I understand our meeting in a month is so short and he hadn't shown me yet any very negative attitude he has.Now the questions are, do you think I have fallen for him despite of being not attracted to him.Will I stop talking to him while we haven't gone deeper or give it another try in October?Please give me some insight about this.Thanks for reading.Confused girl
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (2 June 2016):
 I don't necessarily think you've fallen for him yet, but I think you're starting to and that's a good thing. Whilst attraction is important, physical isn't the only type; there's platonic attraction (you get on well) and romantic attraction (his personality is attractive to you). I agree with giving him a chance; looks often fade over time and you may even grow to be fond of his appearance when you spend more time with him. He may not be for you in the long run, but you clearly like him, so I wouldn't give up on it just yet.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 June 2016):
 The thing is he might not be attractive to you physically but that might not stop you liking him. I remember when I first started dating someone in my past, like you I did not find him attractive at all. I am not sure why I kept going back to him, maybe because he was nice and treated me well. We lasted four years in the end, and I did fall for him, I also began finding him attractive the more I got to know him, my advice would be to give him a chance, see if it works in the long run, there is no harm in trying.
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