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writes:Hi. I am in long distance relation with a guy, I live in Germany in the north and he is down in Munich. We sometimes dont see each other as much as we would like because work is so hectic for both of us and we have to coordinate holidays with our managers and that is not always the easiest! We are both middle aged, not silly teenagers, we know each other through mutual friends and not through site like Instagram or some random sort of location, there are lots of dating sites but it was nice to meet at our age without using one. We have been together for 2 years and I look for place to live in his city, but it's not easy due to prices and lots of students but we want to live together etc. Like most couples we have arguments and misunderstanding sometimes but we always work it out in the end. I just got back home after a long weekend with him. He went to work yesterday and forgot to take his wallet, he rang me and said would I mind grabbing some money out of it and coming round to drop it off for him later as he was waiting for a meeting at his office with a client. I said sure and opened his wallet, pulled out 20 euros and as I did, a piece of paper folded up very very small fell out onto the floor. I could not resist to take a look at what was on it and when I unfolded it, it was a woman's phone number, I recognise mobile supplier as it was a prefix of Tchibo phone company here. I did not jump to conclusions but had funny feeling. The paper it was on not yellow like old but recent. He keeps all contacts in his mobile and not in his wallet. I ask him earlier today does he know someone by that name. He said no. I called the number earlier (hid my own number) and woman answered, I asked is this XXXXXXXXXX XXXXXXX and she said yes. It is also bothering me that he keeps my phone number in his phone under my surname. Is that strange? Whenever we are out together, if I walk him to his office and say bye bye see you later and kiss him he always look over his shoulder. I ask him why does he do this, he said I am shy.What should I do?
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (2 June 2017):
 I go along with whan aunt honesty said , and just like to ask if when you had the other woman on the phone did you ask her any thing more to help you in finding out what line of work she is in or why he would have her phone no ?I don't know why he has your last name in his phone , bit strange but I would not like to make a big deal of it as here in France people use last names and I am Irish and we use first names unless we are angry with the person.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 June 2016):
 This does sound like a red flag, it sounds like he is hiding you at work, I wonder why? You should ask him some day soon to introduce you to his work mates, or even his friends and family and see what his response is. I think you should ask him outright why he has a number in his wallet, it could be innocent enough, but if he is looking over his shoulder before he kisses you outside work, then I would be questioning why.
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