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writes: I have recently fallen out with a friend. We have been friends for years and lived together, but she has changed dramatically to an individual overwhelmed by stress and anxiety. I feel sorry for her, and have offered support and encouragment, tried to help her get back into healthy eating, exercising and sleeping patterns, and insisted she sees a doctor on several occasions.Now it has gotten to a stage where she has worn me down. I feel resentful, have made her move out, and am considering cutting all ties. I can't cope with the negativity, and the personal insults. If she does get invovled in an activity with our other friends, she maintains a miserable attitude the entire time, answering every question with an angry response, insisting we don't dress up, we don't go anywhere noisy or brightly lit, claiming to be too tired to do anything. Even though I understand the reason for it, it doesn't make it much less hurtful, especially when I myself have to work hard to maintain a good balance in my life, and to keep my own stress levels down. Have I done the right thing by starting to cut her out of my life? I'm feeling very guilty because it seems so selfish to not help and be patient with someone who is struggling. But at the same time, it has been almost two years of this now, and I feel like she is a negative presence in my life. Is there anything I could have done differently or should do? Reply to this Question
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