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writes:i am married. it seemed to be ok until I met a guy at work. the attraction grew for past years despite my attempts to stop it. few weeks ago I quit as a last ditch effort to save my marriage. I felt he felt the same about me, although he never said it. few days afterwards I was sent to pick up a passenger at a local hospital ER... when I walked in, i saw him sitting there. What are the odds honestly? he seemed surprised to find out that I had quit and that I am now working for another company. his exact words were "i am saddened to hear that' what should I do?
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reader, Gladtohelp  +, writes (30 March 2015):
 I mean marriage is for better or worse. This may just be you trying to forget your problems with your ex. If your married honestly try to work it out with your ex. Trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2015): You should do nothing.
He never told you he had any feelings for you, and all this seems imaginary.
You've got marital-issues, and you're projecting your feelings onto someone you work with; and imagining "he might" feel the same about you. He's probably professionally polite to you, and you're feeling needy.
Running into a coworker is likely, considering most people live within a few miles of where they work. He said he was saddened that you quit; because that's the polite thing to say.
Go work on your marriage, or put the wheels in motion to get a divorce.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 March 2015):
 what do you mean "what should I do?"
you are married
you had a crush on a now former co-worker
you felt you could not handle it so you quit that job so you could focus on the marriage.
you ran into him. that happens when you know people and live and work in the same town.
what you should do is be totally honest with yourself.
what do you WANT to happen???
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (27 March 2015):
 Try to forget this ex-coworker and focus on the issues in your marriage.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (27 March 2015):
 First, should stop looking for excuses to ruin your marriage, therefore, forget about that guy and don't do anything with him. Second, realize that your infatuation with that guy is a symptom of your deteriorating marriage which means your main obligation is, not chase another guy, but find ways to fix your marriage. Third, you are not obligated to tell your husband about your infatuation but you are responsible to not act on it and change those potentially destructive feelings into positive outcome with your husband. Therefore, examine how neglected do you feel and why then come with some ideas to your husband so that you can improve your marriage. So to answer your question as to what you should do is don't do anything.
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