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writes:Hi,I previously asked a question (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/best-male-friend-has-a-girlfriend-but-i.html) about the situation given here, but it's changed a bit and I kind of needed to ask another question, on the same note.As I've said in my earlier question, my best friend is a guy and I think I might love him, but he has a girlfriend. I was talking to him earlier, and he knew I'd been upset about something recently. All I told him was that I liked someone (I didn't tell him that it was him, and said that it was someone he didn't know). I said that I was too scared of the reaction of the person to tell them.He then told me that he was in exactly the same situation a few months ago, with who is his current girlfriend. He told me to just tell the person... which I obviously can't do. There are so many things which could happen if I said anything to him, so I have absolutely no idea what to do.Even if he didn't have a girlfriend, I wouldn't be sure whether I could tell him, just for fear of ruining our friendship. And then there's just how he has a girlfriend, and so it would just make things hard for him if I told him.Most of the time my feelings towards him are as they were before he had a girlfriend, but whenever he mentions her I just feel so sick and jealous about the whole thing.I just want to get over him, which is incredibly hard because he is my best friend, it's very unusual for us to go a day without seeing each other or at least contacting each other in some way. I don't feel like I can tell him, because it could change our friendship, and potentially harm it, because I know that he has a girlfriend.I want him to be happy, but I can't stand just feeling jealous all the time.So there are a few parts to my question... should I say anything at all to him? If so, what could I say, how could I phrase it? How can I get over him, I can't ignore him as he is my best friend?I have had to get over somebody else before, and that was the most painful experience of my life, and resulted in being depressed for almost a year. If I try to get over him, I don't want this time of getting over someone to be the same as that... I don't know what could possibly make it easier.Thank you if you can help xxx
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