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writes:i'm 17 and have never been on a date or had a boyfriend or even had a real kiss. i feel like no guy is ever going to like me.i don't know how to talk to guys so i either don't or try to and sound awkward. i have no clue what i'm doing.i only have a few guy friends at the moment; i realized that i can't be friends with guys who are attractive because i flip out and don't know what to say.how can i fix this? i'd like to have a boyfriend eventually. :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'm just not good at flirting and whatnot... i never know what the heck i'm supposed to say or do... and i always feel like i seem so awkward. and i'm afriad that the guys will make fun of me with their friends later for even trying... because at my school, you can't trust the guys. they're all douche bags until proven otherwise.
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reader, blacktimestwo  +, writes (7 June 2009):
The best advice I think I've ever been given is that if you fake confidence for long enough it eventually becomes real. So just pretend you're the most confident girl in the world and one day it will come naturally.
Think how a really confident girl would act in the situation you are in and do that.
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reader, mandyx99 +, writes (7 June 2009):
 ok this is norma i mean everyone has their own time.look i think that you should be more out going and dont be so shy around guys,dont think about the bad things that could happen think about the good things and dont get nervous think that your going to do great and that by the end of the day you will have a new friend.just wen you see a guy that you like say 'hi' and dont be shy around him.ask him questions and wen he tells you something funny giggle a little even if the joke is not funny.if he dosent say anything else or ask you any more questions then u keep asking him small question and if you think hes getting anoyed or looks like he dosent want to talk to you anymore then say well ill talk to you later and you say bye. :) good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): There is nothing for you to worry about. I didnt get my first kiss until college. I am happy it was with someone I cared about---my first boyfriend. All you need to do is keep living and it will happen when it's the right time.
Enjoy being 17. I am 20 and its great but 17 was just as special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): Hey,
I can give you some advice from the guy perspective. I too suffered a similar predicament, but the trick is you can't think of the attractive person you're talking to as superhuman. Every one is the same; we all have strengths and flaws, so approach some guys, and just practice. Go out there and get into uncomfortable situations because they will only help you learn. Also, just because a guy doesn't approach you first, does not necessarily mean he doesn't like you. Sometimes guys are shy and simply are waiting. Don't get discouraged! He will come some day!
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