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writes:My question is most likely a little to big for this forum... My girlfriend and I love eachother very much. We have been dating for a little over a 3 years. We took a break about a year and a half ago for the summer because we were just getting pissed at each other all the time. The break really helped us both relize what we were missing. She has had her issues with alchol and other drugs and ive been there to support her becasue well, i love the crap out of her. It becomes very stressful for me but i shrug it off and continue to work things out. Once we got back together (at the 1.7 year mark or so) she told me she had tried heroin during our little break because of the stress it caused her and well thats how she handles things. Now 3 weeks ago or so i found that she has been going behind my back and doing this for a year and a half, the entire second part of our relationship. Of course knowing her addictive personalilty i try to be supportive and she seeks help. we both quit weed and all that jazz. things seem like there going well however about a week ago i found out that the program requires her to have no contact with anyone outside the program. that was the last time i talked to her and it drives me crazy for the amount of effort and care that i have but in this relationship. I just want to talk to her... and i cant even do that. I'm looking for any kind of advice anyone can give me. I'm at the end of my rope and its all because i have to big of a heart and clearly with all the bs she has put me through i care to much. I love her. I want her in my life.My worries:She is going to move on with her life without me.She will find someone else in her little program.That this break will cause us to become distant from eachother and we wont have what we did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): Well I suggest that you relax and let her go through her thing in the program.if u have been there for her and have been supportive to her than there is no reason for her not not come back to you.try not to stress her and continue loving her the way u say u do.that's what she gonna need when she gets out of there.don't worry about another guy in there.please do u really think she thinking about guys in there when she's trying to kick (no)that's the laast thing on her mind.good luck with everything
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (26 January 2010):
 Let her go and give her a chance to get her life back together. If it's meant to be and the love is still there you'll end up together again.
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reader, Onlyonequestion +, writes (25 January 2010):
 My opinion is..if she really loves you, she will not find someone else nor forget about you..she is definitely trying to make her life change for the better..so let time do its thing..i know it is easier said than done..but we all go through it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 January 2010):
You need to let her go for her own good. She has problems that you can't solve for her. It's great that you want to be there, but this woman is a mess and in truth, the best thing you can do is move on from her. Otherwise, you'll just be the one who ends up hurt. Let her go. That's my advice.
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