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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was friends with this guy for about 2 years. After I broke up with my partner, he admitted he had feelings for me. I turned him down nicely, and we remained close friends for a further 6 months or so.Eventually, I got back with the partner I had broken up with and my friend wasn't particularly fond of the fact. My partner wasn't keen on me hanging out with people who had a romantic interest in me, so I didn't make a effort to meet up with him.Now (understandably), we dont really talk. He'll still tag me in the odd funny video on facebook, but I miss the friendship that we had. I shouldn't have stopped hanging out with him for the sake of my partner and I regret it. I started a conversation with him on facebook yesterday. He was nice, but quickly told me he had to go and would talk later. I haven't heard back. Should I try talking with him again and apologize for the past and say I want us to hang out more, or should I just move on and not make the same mistake again?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 June 2015):
 I think HE isn't looking to be your friend again. He kind of made a point of NOT wanting to talk.
YOU did do the right thing in stopping being friends, because he WASN'T a friend, he was romantically INTERESTED in you.
Let's say you start talking again as friends and you get a NEW BF, who ins't so keen on this guy and you talking.. will you "dump" this friend again?
I wouldn't contact him and apologize. Because I DO think he would take hat as YOU being interested in more than friendship. And we all know how dudes handles being "friend zoned".
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2015): Are you still with your BF? If so, and you are aware that he's not keen on you keeping contact with this friend, then why do it?
Sometimes, you can care for someone from a distance. Sometimes its OK to know that he's doing well, with out having to reconnect.
You probably hurt him once by distancing yourself since you got back together with your BF. Don't be so cruel and risk hurting him again.
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