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writes:I met this guy through an online dating site. I responded to his profile and He immediately responded back. after a couple of messages we sent back and fourth I ended the conversation given him my email address. He sent me an email message the next day telling me he is serious about getting to know me and he left me his cell and home#. For the last 2 weeks we have talked on the phone at least twice and have text each other a few times. during those conversations he has invited me to visit his home and he has called me baby. We are both in our forty's I'm single and he is divorced dad of a 5 yr girl he spend a alot of time with. he is a professional man we live about 1000 miles between us.Now he will not return my calls or text. His last text to me was "im getting a hair cut i'Ll call you Later". this was 4 days ago. Has he lost interest in me? or should I just move on and forget about him?
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reader, Teacake +, writes (24 November 2008):
 Sometimes real life happens. There is no way to know if he is married, or has a girlfriend, or just got out of prison! You just don't know who he really is or what he really does. Best to meet people after contacting them, and someone near by.
I have a friend who has been on the phone with a man for over a year who she met on myspace and something always comes up as to why its not possible to meet yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): It's hard to say why he's ' gone off the boil' maybe he has lost interest or maybe he is genuinly busy.
Although it's annoying to be ignored, give him a little space and see if he surfaces again. Men generally hate to be chased so don't even think about it, but if you haven't heard from him in a week or so, then decide for yourself if you want to continue. If he contacts you after that and doesn't have a good excuse then it's your call whether to continue or not. If he leaves it too long and loses you then it's his own stupid fault.
Don't let anyone treat you badly, just forget about him for a while and busy yourself, maybe talk to a few others online and act like you don't care.
If he never comes back to you, then you will know he isn't interested and you can thank your lucky stars that you didn't waste too much time on him and you can move on to better things.
Incidently I met my partner online (even though he lived close to me) we had several months of 'off and on' behaviour before we decided we really wanted to give things a go, he was a complete pain in the pants for quite some time, so I ignored him and acted like I wasn't bothered...he soon came running back and we worked it out and are now happily living together.
Good luck and remember...there's plenty more fish in the sea...you just need a bigger net xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Some men do this and then never want to meet up, just want the long distance contact.
Be careful about going to someone's home when you've never met them, he could be dangerous. All those sites tell you to meet up somewhere public and be careful what information you give.
Could you join a local dating agency?
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reader, zara first  +, writes (24 November 2008):
What men say is one thing and what men do is another!. Dont wait for the man to come to you if you want something go out and find it, and if you cant find it your not trying hard enough.If he dosent call so be it, Your not tied up to him and my dear baby means nothing to a man. Do yourself a favour and move on.It will be the best thing for you.Go out and enjoy your life love will come when your ready to accept it.
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