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writes:ive have been with this guy for over a year now . i live with him we see each other every day . were very involved in each others lives but here lately its like he doesn't want to tuch me. what does that mean, has he lost interest. i love this man very much and he says he loves me but is he just saying that . all he ever wants now is oral and i find myself with holding from him i don't like to eveen sleep in the same bed . were changing i find my self going to bed before him to get up before him so i don't have to see him is it over between us should i move out whats the deal Reply to this Question
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reader, lil ladyy  +, writes (5 February 2010):
 talk to him because there could be loads of reason and without talking to him you will not know them...
however a relationship does go both ways and if its going to work he might have to start working at it to not just you so just have a chat and hope it all works out for you x
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reader, vik +, writes (3 February 2010):
vik is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your help and kind words
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): I generally find that playing house and giving your boyfriend or girlfriend everything you have to offer is unwise. To put it bluntly, he may have no incentive to take it to the next level, i.e., marriage. Perhaps you should make him work at the relationship before giving him such pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): People will put their opinions and views on here and yeah it might help you sort out where things are heading but the only way you will find out whats going on is by talking to your boyfriend.
You just need to say that things are obviously different at the moment and you'd really like to make your relationship a bit more fun and how it used to be. Don't approach him when you're in a bad mood or it'll feel like you're nagging. Just be open and polite and as positive as you can be.
It might be your relationship is reaching its natural end, but every relationship after a little while goes through little phases but to get through it you both have to start communicating honestly with each other.
Maybe sit down and say that you love him and want this to work but at the moment he is making you feel that you aren't wanted any more. Tell him you're not angry or annoyed but you're worried that there is something on his mind and tell him if he ever wants to talk to you about anything you'll be there. Try to be patient with him and also be honest about your feelings, if you open up about how you are feeling it might encourage him to do the same.
Best wishes for the future, hope you find happiness
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