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writes:I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, everything is going really well, we’re going on holiday in a few weeks’ time. It’s going at a good pace, we get on and see each other every weekend, however he’s gone cold on me….I saw him last weekend and he said he was thinking about applying for a new job within his company and he was going to try and work on his CV throughout the coming week, we arranged to see each other on Wednesday like we usually do, but I had to cancel as I double booked myself, no problems there, he was fine with that. I went out with my friends that night, had a few drinks but then got home at 12.30am and didn’t feel right, I’d either drunk too much or my drink had been spiked, the only think I knew what to do was call him and I babbled down the phone about how I don’t feel right ect and could he come over, he said he couldn’t as there wasn’t any trains running at 12.30am, so I took myself off to bed, woke up the next morning and was mortified that I had called him that late when he’s probably working hard and trying to apply for this new job. I text him a sorry and hope your day goes well, and he replied ‘it’s fine don’t worry, glad you’re ok’. We usually text each other a couple of times throughout the day, and I knew He was off to his parents that evening for dinner and I was really looking forward to seeing him at the weekend so I text him ‘I hope you’re having a nice time at your parents, looking forward to seeing you this weekend’ no reply for two hours then a text ‘Didn’t go I was too tired’ which I replied ‘Oh gosh again I’m so sorry for waking you up!’ no reply, so I text him today thinking I’m seeing him tonight as we usually do and said ‘Hello you, am I seeing you later?’ the reply ‘I dunno I don’t think it’s a good idea and I think I will spend the weekend doing my own stuff. If I want this job the interview will be on Monday and want to spend the weekend researching what I need to know’ which I replied ‘ok no problem, but not even tonight?’ and he replied’ ‘no not tonight as I’ve already made plans to do what I wanna do’ so I’ve left it at that.I feel really gutted, I was looking forward to seeing him this weekend and he even said he would be around this weekend when we spoke about it earlier in the week. Has he gone off me? I’m not sure what to do, should I just not text him and leave it to cool and wait for him to text next week?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (21 November 2015):
 You are working too hard to make this budding relationship advance and become deeper. It makes you look like you are chasing him....
Guys react to chasing in one of two ways:
1. They take advantage of you.... by being chameleon boyfriends who do just enough "gentlemanliness" to keep you interested... whilest they get to have $*x with you, without really being committed to - or giving a darn about - you..... Or,
2. They walk away from you - altogether - and get on with their lives....
You have to decide what this "B/F" is doing... and how you want to react to his behaviour....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2015): I would ask him straight out what's up. It may be nothing but if he has gone off you, you need to know. Hope this helps
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reader, miss frank +, writes (21 November 2015):
If all was ok until this drunken call, are you sure you didn't say more to him than you not feeling well? If you are sure you didnt say something else which has caused this reaction? If you know you didn't, give him space...... He's thinking about this job thing etc..... Send him a text and say you understand and to let you know how the job application or interview goes - wishing him lots of luck with it, and see if after a couple of days and the stress of that is over, what his contact is like
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