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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Okay so my ex and i dated when we were 15 up until the day before i turned 18. We broke up because he wanted to have his freedoms, live his life, yada yada. Well its been over a year since he and i broke up. And lately hes on my mind all the time. I had posted something the other day saying "sometimes i wonder what we couldve been.." never said names or anything. Keep in mind yes i have had 2 other boyfriends after him but neither has seemed to work out. So no one knew who i was refering to. Well he out of the blue messeges me asking if its about him. I at first tell him id rather not talk about it with him only 2 people know who its really about. He said he understood, then curiously wondering why he thought it could be him i fess up and tell him. He admits to me that i was his first love and he will always love me. And then informs me if he hadnt just left for the army for the next 3 years he would even be up for giving us another chance... You think i would be happy and overwhelmed with joy, but im not.. I just want to cry. And im not sure why. Can anyone explain to me why this is upsetting to me and why it hurts so much??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2015): It is hard to say, but I can offer a guess or two.Maybe you are sad because you know to start up a new relationship between the two of you would not work out, but don't really want to admit it to yourself or him yet? And ending things for real always hurts. Maybe you are sad because he is telling you what you want to hear, but negating that with the comment about the Army. Basically saying he would like to be with you again if it was not for that; which really means he does not want to be with you again but doesn't want to be the bad guy so makes an excuse.Maybe you are disappointed in yourself for going back in contact with a man you broke up with over a year ago, because you don't feel confident that you will find a new love with someone else, and you are afraid he is the best you could do?Anyway, I do hope the feeling passes, and you are ok. I think you can keep looking for Mr. Right. You are very young and have plenty of time to find a man who deserves you. Best of luck.
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