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writes: Hi, just giving an update about a previous subject I posted on here:I had mentioned that I'm good friends with a former college prof (I've since graduated). I know he's about twice my age, but I don't care cause we get along so well. Below's my attempt at a quick update on what happened when we met for lunch when I came home for Christmas:We met for coffee. I got there first and waited for him. When he arrived I waved and smiled at him and he kinda nodded and didn't do anything else. I went up next to him to wait in line. We talked but he was acting kinda strange, like he was trying to ignore me. I mean he was friendly, but not as friendly as he normally is.When we got our coffee we sat down and talked. We were only going to get together for about half an hour as he had other things he had to do but we ended up talking for over two hours! At different points of the conversation we leaned forward; we kept constant eye contact during our talk. One time (he was leaning forward with his arms on the table) he finished talking and we just sat there looking in each other's eyes, not saying a word. It lasted a good 15-20 seconds; I've never had anything happen to me like that before. I don't think I did but he never blinked during that time; he kept looking into my eyes. I don't think his pupils dilated (I've read that's a sign that a guy likes you; honestly I was trying to figure out what color his eyes were...kind of a bluish-grey - is that auburn? Okay, off topic) but he had really warm eyes and sort of had a little grin on his face like he really liked being with me.We talked and laughed. I wanted to touch his arm but was too shy to do so. Afterwards, when he was taking me home, we were talking about his house and where it's located. He then ended our get-together by mentioning the next time I'm in town we can meet at his house (!!)Sorry this is so long. Here's my question: has his flirting increased during this meeting? We hadn't seen each otehr in about three months. Before, he would always look me in the eyes (not staring like what happened before) and would sometimes blush when talking to me and look at me when I'm not looking then turn away when I'd look at him. Please answer!! Thanks for your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): flirting is light- hearted and fun when there is no pressure for it to go anywhere, as you described at the end, what he used to do. i know from experience that people are very anxious when they are thinking about making a move or taking it to the next level. i think in your situation he was on edge because he had descided he wanted to make a move. it seems that he chickened out, which is very common, but he did put the ball in your court by susggesting the meet at his house.....he's too shy to make the move he planned, so now he's begging you to make one.
good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): Hi, me again - forgot to mention he's not married nor has a girlfriend.
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