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writes:I relocated abroad about 5 months ago with work and just before I left I started seeing a guy - it was literally for only a few weeks but we'd been flirting with each other for 6 months prior to that. After I moved we were constantly emailing, calling and texting each other and we seemed to be quite serious - well as serious as you can get miles apart!Anyway I recently went back home for a week long visit and stayed with him - whilst we shared a bed and were still affectionate the relationship did not progress physically - and it's been 4 days since I got back and I haven't heard anything from him - I'm not sure what to think now - could be he's stressed as he's looking for a new job or has he just lost interest and I should take the hint and move on??
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (16 November 2008):
 It sounds like the feelings you shared that were once mutual perhaps have changed because of the long distance. This happens alot when a couple is seperated for long periods of time or thru distance.
Since you spent time with him recently and shared his bed it would seem he hasn't forgotton you, however it is possible that he did this out of some feeling of obligation or fear of hurting you.
If you haven't heard from him yet try not to worry, he could be busy and it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't care. On the other hand, he hasn't called so it could be a sign that it just the visit wasn't as much to him as it was to you. He could be trying to weigh his options or he could be trying to give you a hint that the long distance thing isn't working and he wants to be free.
Give him some time, try not to read much into it unless he doesn't call in the next couple of days. If he doesn't call then he is too busy for you and you should STAY BUSY AND NOT WASTE TIME ....Waiting and wondering...get out and find new friends and new things to do. If he really cares he will be sure to let you know.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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