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writes:I'm quite depressed, I'm leaving for university in two weeks and last Saturday was the last time everyone i went to college with was together. It was the best send off that it upsets me that we're going separate ways. I know I'll love university and meet amazing people there that i probably will forget about it. Honestly, i didn't think it would effect me and that i wouldn't be fussed.But thinking about it now, that probably was the last time we will all be together in one place, because soon we're all starting new lives. It's just sad, knowing that we're growing up and it is most likely we will grow apart, no matter how much we try to prevent it and keep in contact. I've seen it happen with so many people. I'm not saying i don't see us all being friends, i just mean not as close as we are now.I just wondered how you deal with this? Has anyone stayed in contact with the people that they went to college with? Is this normal and expected that this happens when you go to university?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2011): I kept in touch with my college friends for the first year of uni, we still textd and met up in the holidays, but after that we just drifted apart. It wasn't a bad thing, it kinda happened naturally. But don't stress about it too much, just remind yourself to catch up with your old friends every now and again if you can.
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reader, Blod +, writes (2 September 2011):
 I felt exactly the same way as you before I started uni. I absolutely hated school but the thought of it coming to an end was horrible. I think a lot of people feel the same way as you so it's perfectly normal. It's not a nice feeling but it will pass.
I think the best way to sum up uni and friendships is that you find out who your real friends are. You won't keep in touch with everyone, but you will some and they'll probably be friends for life. I'm quite surprised at who I'm still in contact with, and no doubt you'll have a few surprises too as well as a few disappointments.
Don't worry about it. Once you start uni, there'll be so much going on that you won't have time to keep in touch with everyone. Those friends who matter will still be in your life but it'll take time to settle. It's just a case of accepting that you're starting a new phase in your life, but you'll always have that 'bond' I guess with everyone you were in college with.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (2 September 2011):
 Write real letters, send emails, facebook, text, there are so so so many ways to communicate now, use them (especially hand written letters). However, a word of caution. If you work too hard to maintain your old friendships, you will have trouble focusing on your new ones. I had one friend who worked so hard to stay best friends with her friends from home that she wound up feeling homesick the entire way through university.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (2 September 2011):
 I'm in the same kind of situation as you~ as me and my friends are all going off to different uni's. I think though that if there is a strong enough bond between you all and you reguarly keep in contact with them such as texting and facebook/emails then it should all be ok :) Though I think it is natural to maybe lose 1 or 2 of them over time~ I have a couple of friends who I don't think will last throughout the duration of uni.
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