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writes:Hello to who is reading this.All I can say is I'm just wanting to know if anyone is going through or has gone through this. I feel like I'm under a serious dark cloud right now, I'm NOT one to feel sorry for myself which I don't, but right now things are a total and utter mess. Family, career, relationship, money, it's like hmm which one am I worrying about today. I know everyone has pressures and stress, but I just feel like things are so bad I can't concentrate at work, I have no security with anything. My patents are in a bad situation, and I have moved for a job, so I feel like I've abandoned there poor situation. Not only that, but I am away from friends and struggle with money weekly. I'm living with my bro at the moment and saving for my own place, but I don't feel I have anything if my own. I'm 23 and don't even feel like I'm anywhere near or how I want my life to be, like I say, circumstances for the past 6 months are so have been awful (basically homeless) and I need some light at the end of the tunnel. I am a happy person and everything but my spirit is pretty dimmed now. Any advice, pick me ups, similar experiences?Thank you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ anonymous
Yeah that's the plan for a flat share! It's much cheaper. I walk a few miles daily, and I do call home & send money whenever I can. I am grateful for a job and a roof over my head, trust me, you couldn't find a more grateful person. I know first hand what it's like when things get wiped away. Thanks for help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012):
Start by counting your blessings, you have a job and a roof over your head. You did something to improve your situation you did not just sink lower. Your parents are together so they have to help each other.If they were worrying about you it would be worse for them. Loads of people older and younger than you have been in bad situations and more will follow.
If your short of money try to get a 2nd job just one or 2 nights or weekend. Buckle down and focus on the future. Dont get a place alone go for a flat share or a room in a house its cheaper. Get out in the open when you can, get a bike even. Phone your parents every week to let them know your thinking of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 It may sound cliche, but exercise can help. Get out of the house, go for a walk. EVERY day.
Sit down and make yourself a budget. Stick to it.
Start a journal. Write all the blargh stuff down, sometimes getting it out of your head and down on paper can help too.
Accept that you are at "this" point in your life right now, but that it will change. YOU are the one you can and will change it.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (24 April 2012):
 Well first off I don't know if you're religious... but if you are, I would encourage you to trust in your faith and believe that things will be better. Secondly you have to believe in yourself. You WILL make it through the dark tunnel. Trouble won't last always.Everyone goes through difficult circumstances in their life, but it's not what you go through... it's how you deal with it. Every rejection/issue job wise can lead up to something better. And every failure relationship wise you have to believe is leading you one step closer to finding that right person. If you are having problems meeting Mr. Right, remember you have to kiss a few frogs before you meet your prince. And when you do, you'll appreciate him so much more because of what you've been through before him.And I think you're taking a good step also to having a bit more control of your life by saving up to move into your own place. Continue to do so. I would encourage you to also reach out to old friends, get new ones by networking and joining social circles, and build up a stronger bond with your family. You're only 23. God willing, you have a whole life to look forward to. Create a list of things that can serve as positive affirmations that you can look at daily when you're feeling down, depressed, or sad. Remind yourself just how wonderful you are... and how potentially wonderful your life can still be. Stay determined, stay true to yourself, and stay focused on doing what you need to do to make a better life for yourself.I wish you the very best with your situation!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 It can be hard to have a positive outcome when things start to go wrong. It can be very hard to over come stress but the only thing that you can do is try and get your attitude back again. I am sorry that your parents are having a hard time at the moment, but they have each other to help one another out. They will over come there problems together try and not stress out about them, just look at your own life at the moment. You have a job now, which is good, yes you had to move for it and it sounds like you are not making much money. But you still have employment so look at that as a good thing. Sit down and make out a weekly budget so you know what you can spend money on, look where you can make savings and come up with a plan. As for having to live with your brother, I can understand that you feel like you may be a burden or you just want to have a place of your own but be thankful at the moment that you have a roof over your head. Where there is a will there is a way. So be realistic and see how much money you can set aside weekly to save up to rent your own place. Even if it is just a small amount each week, try and make sacrifices in places and save small bits. It all adds up. It can be hard to make new friends in a new location. But not impossible so start talking to people you work with. Make plans with them even if it is to sit in evenings and watch a movie. Something cheap. Talk to people. The more people you talk to the more friends you can make.
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