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writes:I am 24 years old. My bf has been living with me for almost three year now. He has a child that I have known since he was 18 months. We have the child 2-3 days out of the week. I have no children and have become very attached to this little guy.When my BF and I moved in together I was renting an apt. He was having financial difficulties then and still. Now a year ago I bought a house (only in my name) and he said he would help out but has not done so yet. I have confronted him several times. Each time things get better. (He has built a deck for me with my money and other 'handy man' things) I pay his living expenses and his child's. Out to eat/movies I pay. I even bought him a cheap car which then he sold for money and now complains that his parents car is a gas guzzler. He pays the internet bill (which is always late and his parents pay his cell phone bill) Basically, I realize that this is not healthy for me. I feel bad that he isn't financially stable but I am just feeling too used. The last fight I told him that he needs to pay $200 a month or get out. That was a month ago and he told me last night that he couldn't pay me b/c he was going to save to go to school next year. grrr.Sorry about all the griping just wanted you all to know the back ground.So my question... Has anyone ever heard of keeping in touch with an ex boyfriend's child after a breakup? Can that work? Is that even healthy for a child? I feel that my home is the most stable as his mother still lives at home with her parents, but he is defiantly loved over there. Just need to know if anyone has any suggestions/input.It is about the child now.
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reader, glassblower +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Just an update-I have met a girl who keeps in touch with her dad's ex-girlfriend. So it does happen. :)
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reader, glassblower +, writes (20 October 2010):
I haven't heard of it, but there's a first for everything! If you do, don't be "daddy's ex-girlfriend", be "aunty" or "godmother" as it sounds better and saves face. However, dump the father, what a schmooze. You sound like you have a great maternal instinct and I applaud your wanting to take care of this little boy! Best of luck dear! xoxo glassblower
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Can't say that I have. Ultimately it would be up to the mother if you could stay in the child's life or not. As long as he was old enough to understand who you are..I see no problem with you being a distant aunt attending birthday parties, helping out with babysitting, and what not. The child needs consistency in his life not daddy bringing women in and out of it..thus confusing him. I'm confused as to why you say your home is the most stable, he obviously has a loving home even though it's with his grandparents too.
You sound like you want a baby, I see your maternal instinct coming out. But do ditch your boyfriend because he sounds like a loser.
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