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writes:Hey :) I could use abit of help. My cousin(Ill call her Gemma)who is 7 her mum has started entering her into child beauty pagents. It was Gemma's mum who made the choice to enter her into these compitions and is encourageing Gemma to go to them. I am pretty sure deep down my cousin doesnt like them as we had a heart to heart conversation and she wasnt very enthusiastic about them at all. But her mother is really takeing this far i mean she covers Gemma in fake tan has bought some fake hair peices and is even looking into getting fake teeth !. Gemma has won a couple compeitions but i think it is sorta starting to warp her view on life. She has started worrying about the size of her thighs and has fallen out with alot of friends recently. I am worried that all this beauty stuff is going to her head. i am completely against beauty pagents i mean if children are being told that in order to look "beautiful" they have to slap on aload of make up and prace around like a pony whats that gonna teach them when there in highschool ? That in order to get attention they have to out do other girls and be fake. Im getting worried about her and im scared that this beauty pagent thing is going to ruin the sweet little girl i know. I really want to know what your opions our on child beauty pagents ? Should i take any further action and tell some other family members, or should i just calm down and stop being so dramatic about it all im not to sure if i am just letting my veiws of child beauty pagents go to far and really theres nothing wrong with them? Im not to sure what to do so some advice would be brilliant thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thankyou for some of your responces. i am just worried that my cousin is going to turn into some sort of monster. Even though i am young there are so many girls at my old highschool that were obsessed by beauty and anyone else who was different they would automatically look down on them. I really dont want my cousin turing into one of them I will try my best to be there for her and i talk to her and im gonna show her that makeup and sparkly dresses isnt everything. But you see its hard because im telling her one thing and her mother is telling her a different thing i dont want her getting confussed. I think i will have a chat with some other family members and see where to go from there untill then i will just try and treasure my cousin for who she is and hope that she doesnt go the same way as the girls at my old Highschool. Thanks for you advice xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): I think the best and probably easiest way to handle things is to keep being a great cousin, by giving Gemma variety and other things to try in her life, if her life is more balanced without being taken over by pagents only - then she has every chance of growing up to be a well adjusted teenager and adult. By offering to take places and doing interesting activities with her such as fun games that involve the brain, card games and sports you will be showing her how to live by example, that way she will be making better choiced internally about how to live life.
This does not mean you have to worry much - you are young too - it's enough that you care and can help in these little ways and in your spirit - that makes a difference to her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): I know that beauty pageants are wrong, but it is your cousin's moms kid. Maybe act like a big sister to her and try to show her that inner beauty is all that matters. As for her mom, maybe talk to her about cutting down on the pageants. But as I've said before, its her kid, her descision. If she ignores your advice, you will have to understand that.
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (9 June 2011):
 I agree with you, and I think you should get other family members together and do an intervention. In addition, make sure you are talking to the little girl and gently reinforcing that the beauty pageant stuff isn't important. Show her that her true beauty is inside of her, and lead her by example. The fact that you are her cousin, you are an older girl, and you are being nice to her will automatically make you the BEST THING EVER in a little girl's eyes.
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