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writes:Hello, I'm a 18 year old female with a very hairy stomach! I even have hair all around my nipples. I feel so embarrassed when I go swimming at the beach. I always have to wear a rash shirt or a full piece bathing suit to cover up. I feel too embarrassed to wear a bikini. Is this normal? Is there something wrong with my hormones? Should I see a doctor about this?I've tried shaving to remove the hair, but the hair just grew back thicker and longer. Can anyone give me any suggestions as to how I can remove and reduce the hair on my stomach? My boyfriend recently tried to initiate sex with me, but I lied and told him I wasn't ready because I didn't want him to see my hairy stomach. I don't know how long I can keep putting this off. He will eventually lose interest in me. Please help!
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reader, fzappa  +, writes (13 March 2011):
woman with body hair are extremely sexy. when my auntie wore a bikini i saw a line of hair on her stomach and it really turned me on, thinking of all the other places she must have hair. then when she lifted her arms I saw her underarm hair and i cudnt stop staring. when u have a boy staring at ur belly hair, make him tell u about his arousal
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reader, MagusFTD  +, writes (18 February 2011):
Don't ever shave that stomach, it only adds to your beauty. I'd count myself as a blessed individual if my future wife has a hairy belly. I find it attractive for women to have some chest hair as well. the perfect quantity is probably about 50-70% of the amount of chest hair I have. If you suppose I might be some unattractive perverted male then I'll just say I have had many very attractive women want to bed me. I just don't roll that way because I don't think that's the way to start a good relationship. The women who have a lot of respect for the family are what attract me. I'm lucky enough to say that I have even met an intelligent and attractive woman who had a healthy respect for the family and also got wide-eyed when I took the time to go over and talk to her. Those are memories worth cherishing. It's not very common to find women of that caliber these days though, unfortunately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou to everyone who replied, your advice has been very useful!I will get this problem checked out by a doctor. I hope someday I will be able to put on a bikini at the beach and not feel so embarrassed!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 I think you definitely need to see a doctor. The reason is that 1 in 10 women (me included) have polycystic ovaries which is a medical condition associated with hair in the wrong places! I can testify to that - I feel like guy the gorilla some days. You need to identify if you have any hormonal imbalances (a blood test will do the job) before you think about getting rid of it. I personally recommend laser therapy if you can afford it, as it works if the hair is dark. I had it done in a clinic after I was diagnosed, and I now have a tria laser machine at home to zap those pesky hairs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): Let it grow. It's cool and very sexy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): http://www.hairremovaljournal.org/darkskin.aspx
Laser hair removal will not work on your dark hair because the laser will pick up on the dark pigment and it will not work, so don't waste your money on false claims from some spa asthetiticians who are doing these treatments without the proper training and are in in to just make money! There is not a laser out there that will permanently remove yor dark hair.
I am assuming it is your ethinticity that is causing your dark hairiness and it is part of who you are.
You should have your thyroid and hormones tested by a doctor just to be sure there is nothing out of whack, but if everything checks out fine, then probably waxing will work best for you.
I think you are overly concerned about it though as I know there are lots of women out there in your position, we all have something about our bodies we are uncomfortable with, but we have to learn to be happy in our own skin.
By the way you shouldn't feel that you have to have sex with your boyfriend to keep him or keep his interest. That is not a good thing, don't have sex for that reasons, you will be very disappointed. Wait until you feel he is the right guy for you and loves you for you and you are in a commited relationship, it would be great if you want to wait for marriage even!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): I had the same problem and still do but fortunately there are many ways you can manage this. I epilate and find this works well as the hairs grow back much finer and eventually they stop regrowing all together.
I tried lasering but it did not really work for me. I must say plucking is the worst thing you can do.
Every woman has hair and some people have it darker and more prominent in certain areas. For example my sister in law is South American and has prominent dark hair on her lip line and stomach which she waxes regularly. It is best to manage the hair as this will give you better body confidence. Beauty salons are very discreet and familiar with hair issues as there are millions of women like you.
No man is going to be put off by it and if they are then they are not worth your time. Do not let this get you down. We appreciate it is annoying and life long but you are a young woman (18!)and have better things to worry about like your future, having fun and all the wonderful experiences you are going to embark on.
It might be worth speaking to your doctor as it could be a hormonal or thyroid issue which can be managed well.
If it is not then just find the best beauty solution that gives you the greatest confidence. Covering yourself up from the world is not worth it. You are beautiful no matter what.
Take it easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): Women are hairy in all different ways and places, waxing or electrolosis can sort this out.There are hormonal reasons you could be hairy so if you are really concerned go and see your doctor there are things he can do to help you.
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