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writes: I need like a lot of help. I don't understand why but I had sex with my boyfriend's best friend. I feel so terrible and I have no idea what to do or how to tell.Can you please help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2005): Do you really want to be with your boyfriend? You need to understand your reasons for doing what you did. If you don't know why it's more likely to be about yours and your boyfriend's relationship, rather than feelings for his friend. This may be a way for you to end things or something to hurt yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2005): Don't say anything. God, do you want to be dumped?For one thing, you lose him. Not shaggin his best mate is golden rule number one. Never, ever do it.You lose him and he's going to lose a best mate. But then again, he can't be much of a mate to do that to him.Put it down to bad luck and learn from it and don't let it happen again.
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reader, vikki +, writes (24 March 2005):
I think you should get your boyfriend and your "lover" together. Sit them down and then tell your boyfriend so that he can talk to both of you at the same time. x
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A reader, Mike, writes (24 March 2005): Hey,First of all the important thing is that you feel bad about it. But I have a tough answer for you. Call him up, tell him you need to talk... and tell him face to face. Don't expect him to say anything, because most likely he is going to be crushed from hearing this... and he will probably be mad at you and his friend. But if his friend tells him first it will be MUCH worse.Secondly, give him time. He may ask for a break (even to break up)... you have to understand that he feels betrayed and confused (he is probably going to question not only you and your integrity, but himself also).A couple important things:1. When you call him tell him you have to talk to him (using those words), don't set him up like it is a date or something, this way he comes prepared.2. Don't try to blame him. Whether or not things are going ok, it was your decision. Just be honest, don't beat around the bush with it. 3. Tell him how bad you feel, and ask him to forgive you...4. Don't expect an answer anytime soon, and be prepared for the worst. He may break up with you for awhile until he gets things sorted out. Be patient with him (sometimes us guys have to think a little harder).Good luck with your boyfriend and I hope things work out!- Mike
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