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writes:i had a fling with one of my best mates one night when we were very very drunk. one minute he was all over me the next day he completly ignores me. i hate the thought of one night stands and it is tearing me up inside why he is doing this. i feel so betrayed that he would do something like this when he knows how i feel. everytime my fone goes off i think its him.what should i do about him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2006): I agree totally with 'LuckyMan'. I would forget about this guy and hold yourself up to a higher standard and never allow this to happen to yourself, again. You opened your body to him in a drunken state..without a thought for what could happen, afterwards. You have no one to blame for this, but you. Your sense of betrayal and embarrassment will go away eventually. Give it time. Get on with life and learn the lesson. Take Care
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reader, smeedle +, writes (6 February 2006):
 Hi, well if I could turn back time for you I would, but fact is that it has happened and so you must just get on with it and put him and the whole episode behind you, I have had lots of similar situations in my many years and trust me you will probably do this again, when we drink we do the stupidest things and when morning comes so does the "oh god what did I do" thoughts as we face the consequenses.
It is an added complication that it was a very good friend but you cannot undoe this and so my advice for what it is worth is to stop waiting for the phone to ring, it never does believe me I know!! go out and socialise, if you can face him then do so and tell him that you made a mistake when drunk in sleeping with him and you hope this will not spoil your friendship (that`s if you still want to be frinds with him) Make out he has not hurt you and that alcohol was to blame.
It may be that he is as embarrased by this as you, and he is ignoring you so he does not have to apologise or face you, tackle it head on if possible, this way it looks like you are the mature one and that it meant nothing to you but his friendship does, good luck and cheer up.
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