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writes:Guys,what makes you decide to have a relationship,a hook up (sex only),to befriend with a girl?1. If a girl is beautiful or sexy,but she has a poor personality or she's a b**ch,would you like to have a relationship with her?or just a hook up?or friends only?2.If a girl is beautiful or sexy and she has a great personality,would you like to have a relationship,a hook up,or to befriend with her?3.If a girl is just average-looking but she has a great personality and both of you are compatible(have much in common),would you like to have a relationship,a hook up,or to befriend with her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo Cerberus,WOW! I love your answer! Very informative:-)"If you're asking from the point of view of wondering if guys see you as relationship, hook up or friend material. Then don't because that's irrelevant."------If that's irrelevant, then why did some guys say something like this to my friends when they knew I liked them...like "no,I don't like her. She's not attractive" or "no, I don't like her. She's weird. I only like her as a friend" or "what?! she likes me?! ummm....well...She's weird and noisy. She's just a nice friend"....etc..So how would you explain these comments?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo LazyGuy,
Some girls just attract a certain type of guy. This has nothing to do with looks and not with being a bitch or nice. It is with how she allows men to treat her. ---------------If it has nothing to do with looks,then why do most guys in high schools and in universities look for attractive girls? Why do I hear a lot of things like "no,I don't like her in that way.She's not attractive.She's ugly!" and "does she have big boobs? If yes,I would go out with her" and "No,I don't like her.She's too bitchy!She has poor personality" and "No,I don't like her.She's noisy and weird. She's just a friend."
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): A hot girl will turn a man's head. It also opens many doors for them. Go look at the sales staff at a radio station. They are predominatly hot chicks because hot chicks rarely get told no selling ad space to the types of places that like to advertise on radio.
But a life time of never hearing the word no makes them boorish and impossible to live with.
Give me a girl next door type thank you very much.
Preferably one that looks like Jenna Fisher.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 If so many guys are attracted to hot girls how come so many "ugly" girls get married. If what you say is true there would be no extra sized wedding dresses.
Also there would be no single hot girls. Follow celeb news? How many sex bombs get dumped just as hard as ordinary girls?
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (2 January 2011):
Question for the OP: What is the point of asking a question when you've got it all figured out already?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo Lazyguy,
Thank you for your reply :-)
You said mostly how a guy treats a girl is guided by how she allows the guy to treat her.It has little to do with looks or personality...but I don't think so.If what you said was true,then why are so many guys attracted to beautiful/hot girls?Why are so many guys out there emotionally attracted to girls who have great personality and they end up dating these girls? So the conclusion is...it has a lot to do with looks or personality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): LazyGuy is completely correct, it is mainly how the girl lets the guy treat her.
But a lot of it is down to the individual guy. I don't care how beautiful a girl is, if she's a bitch then I won't want anything to do with her. I don't do "just hookups" either. Nor would I want to be friends with her.
Oh something to remember, we guys don't really try to "befriend" girls. We just don't. Unless that girl is part of our social clique, a friends girlfriend, or someone we work with. Then the only reason we get to know random girls is because we're interested in them.
Here's a general rule by which all the "good guys" work. A beautiful woman with an ugly personality grows more ugly to us in appearance too as we get to know her. An average looking girl with a beautiful personality grows more beautiful to us physically the more we get to know her.
The thing to always understand though is that all us guys have different opinions on what makes a girl beautiful, we all have different tastes when it comes to beauty. My perfect beauty and what I find irresistible is short women and I love a little bit of extra weight.
It's down to the individual guy though and how he treats women, I don't do casual hookups. If I'm attracted to a girl then I'll talk to her and ask her out.
Other guys don't care about beauty or personality and only want to hook up with lots of women.
If you're asking from the point of view of wondering if guys see you as relationship, hook up or friend material. Then don't because that's irrelevant. There will be all sorts of guys that want all sorts of things from you but very rarely will you be approached by a guy randomly who only wants to be friends. Really it just doesn't happen.
If what you're looking for is a relationship, then don't do hook ups, don't think for one second that hooking up with a guy instead of dating him is a way for him to get to like you. If a guy is very forward, talks a lot about sex early, acts sleazy or tries to get you to go to his place or to yours then it's only sex he's after. If a guy doesn't work a bit to get to know you before he tries it on then all he's interested in is sex, I'm taking about proper work, not just chatting you up for an hour in a bar, I'm talking about proper dating.
Guys that don't show interest beyond being friends then don't assume he only wants to be friends, because there are a lot of guys that just aren't good at that kind of thing, not good at making moves but want you anyway, or are just being respectful, or are waiting for you to who them you're interested.
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reader, LazyGuy +, writes (31 December 2010):
You are thinking the wrong way. Mostly how a guy treats a girl is guided by how she allows the guy to treat her.
It has little to do with looks or personality. If you allow a guy to use you just for sex, then by magic some guy will come along who wants to do just that. At the same time, this will turn off guys that want something more. Or the guys who want a relationship just uses you while looking for another girl.
Some girls just attract a certain type of guy. This has nothing to do with looks and not with being a bitch or nice. It is with how she allows men to treat her.
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