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Guys:Do you honestly think he has led me on intentionally or unintentionally?

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Question - (31 December 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 31 December 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have known him for a year.I used to see him only as my friend...a few months ago,we were closer and we became good friends,but he started flirting with me,touching me a lot(played with my hair,touched my back,put my hair into his mouth and bit it and told me the smell of my hair was even better than my cooking..etc.),asking me a couple of times whether I liked him sexually or not,telling me my ex-crush was very ugly,asked me whether he could replace my ex-crush,telling me he would lose me or I would definitely remember him if he got drunk...etc. I originally thought that he liked me in a romantic way.So I started to fall for him. A month ago, when I texted him telling him I loved him as more than a friend,he didn't respond to my text at all! After a month,we talked to each other again.He asked me whether I had got over him.He also told me he wasn't in love with me and he wouldn't go out with me.

Now,I feel hurt....:'-(

Do you think he has led me on intentionally or unintentionally?I feel like I was deceived....

Should I tell him how I feel?I really want to punch his face now!!!

He's 19.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010):

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To Cerberus:

I think he just saw me as someone he could have fun with, someone who he could have sex with and the sex would just be sex and that there would be no meaning to it!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010):

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Thank you very much for your reply,Cerberus.

So you think he sees me only as his platonic friend and nothing romantic or sexual?!I swear he doesn't do something like this to his other female friends.At least he won't ask his other female friends questions like "do you like me sexually?" If you read my previous story first,you won't say something like that....

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-my-guy-friend-like-me-romantically-sexually.html

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/if-shes-attractive-will-you-lose-your-control.html --you've replied to my post

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010):

No he didn't lead you on, you got caught out in your own assumptions. Yes his flirting could be misconstrued but you're friends, I have lots of friends that I mess around with like that and it doesn't mean anything.

I think you let yourself believe that he liked you that way, when all he was doing was fooling around the minute you said you like him he backed off. That's not leading you on. He was honest. If he didn't tell you that he wasn't interested then that would have been leading you on.

Try not to be so angry at him, he didn't do anything wrong, you just got the wrong idea and saw signs that weren't there. Normally I'd say all that flirting was a sign of interest but lots of friends are that flirty and close.

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