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writes: Can any guy answer me one question? Why do you flirt with girls if you dont have any feelings, other than a friendship, for them?? I swear every guy does this. Is it a way to give yourself confidence or what?? Because in the end you hurt the girl by giving her hope she has a chance with you then she later finds out he doesnt like you, even a little bit. Any guy plzzz respond cuz I just cant get this question out of my head. thxx!!!
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reader, hess123  +, writes (22 January 2009):
I don't know why but I flirt with girls for no reason. I don't know why I do it, I guess it just makes me feel good to know that some people like me in this world and I want them to feel like I need to make them feel the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou forgot to change "giving her hope" to "giving him hope" lol but yes i guess i never thought of it that way and it would have been logical to think of it both ways but i didnt really. i think, for the times i flirt with guys i dont like, its a lil of a lot of things. it kinda tells me that they enjoying talking and flirting with me. when i flirt, i only flirt if i think the guy is a lil cute and that they wouldnt flirt back unless they thought i was a lil cute and bcuz,yes, it is fun! but normally,if the girl isnt too shy, and she likes the guy more than just friends she will either do more than flirt to give him the hint, tell him that she likes him more than a friend or has someone else do it for her or gives him a hint that she just wants to be friends. i hope this all made sense to you and everyone else that was wonderin the same question. and to danielepew i really like your responses and hope you keep writing to me!!!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Well, I think that now I have some questions for you:
Why do you flirt with guys if you dont have any feelings, other than a friendship, for them?? I swear every girl seems to do this. Is it a way to give yourself confidence or what? Because in the end you hurt the guy by giving her hope he has a chance with you then he later finds out she doesnt like you, even a little bit. Would you please respond?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni flirt with guys all the time,except if i have a bf, for the fun of it but they know im just joking around. its just the ones who i dont know are joking that bug me. i see all your points though and it has helped me understand it a little more. thxx!!!
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (17 June 2008):
I will put some salt to the wound: what if, as is often the case, the guy/girl mistakes the flirting for "something else" and gets heartbroken? Can we really say flirting doesn't have any consequences?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (17 June 2008):
Poster, I very much agree with the way you have put your question. I can't understand that sort of flirting, either. In my humble opinion, you flirt when you want to go for it, or you don't flirt. Because of the very reasons you gave.
Let's wait and see how many answers we get.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): umm havent u ever done some harmless flirting for the fun of it? me being female, i do it all the time and i have a bf...dont hear guys complaining about it..they just live with it...if the girl is intersted she would do flirt alot more i guess...dont take what guys do too seriosuly coz as u said..u just get hurt....guys are dicks and u learn to live with it and if u cant then change how ur friends with and find a group of guys that arent dicks
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): I don't know about everybody else, but I find it fun. I don't do it with every girl though, just those I'm familiar with. To me it has nothing to do with confidence. It's just a normal part of socializing.
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