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writes:My boyfriend of three years and I have decided that we want to try to experiment more in bed. I am coming up with a list of things that we can try but I don't know if there are others that I haven't thought of.So far I have:AnalThreesomeRoleplayingWatching porn togetherVideotaping usPick up another girl to join usIf anyone, preferably guys who know what they would really want their girl to do in bed, can tell me some other stuff I can add to my list that would be great. Thanks so much for all your help
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 August 2011):
 Touch his balls, or the spot between his balls and the anus. Or if you're risky, and he responds well, touch him closer to the anus and eventually... you know what.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (4 August 2011):
 I know my husband would love it if I could make him a sandwich at the same time...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDoes anyone have any suggestions of what I can do while we are actually having sex? I know to try different positions but are there places I can touch him or other things I can do for him while he is inside me?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (3 August 2011):
You need to figure out what your guy wants then, because everyone is different, and you're the only one who knows your guy well enough to know, by yourself, what he will enjoy the most.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOur relationship does not revolve around sex. You guys can trust me when I say that our sex life is great. He does amazing stuff for me in and out of bed. He treats me like a goddess and I want to do things to make him feel the same way. I haven't mentioned all the stuff that goes on outside the bedroom because I am confident in what we have and things are great. I love to please him and he loves to please me. Even when we have had a threesome there are boundaries and rules that we have. He always asks me if I am okay with something and expects that I will not do something I am not comfortable with or goes against my morals. I have the same expectations of him. This really isn't about me trying to save my relationship by making things in the bedroom amazing. Things are already pretty incredible. I just want to come up with things that I can do for him. He is also doing the same for me. It's sweet that everyone is so concerned about my wellbeing but realy there is nothing to worry about. I am just looking for other ways to please my boyfriend as a surprise. I am sure there are plenty of guys out there that wish their gf would do something super hot in bed. I want to make his unmentioned fantasies come true because he always does for mine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): perhaps you need to keep it realistic.
look at: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/threesome-has-affected-friendship-boundaries-.html - this is an eye opener - where one partner becomes greedy, doesnt respect boundaries/partners ......
why are u making sex all about HIS pleasure....what about yours??
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): I like all your options except threesomes or another girl. Trust me...it causes problems 99% of the time.
Most guys like to get into cum play. Most guys I know like to cum different places on their girl or in their mouth. If you dont already do that, it might be a huge turnon.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (3 August 2011):
What about just doing non erotic things for him to make him feel special? Like bake cakes or buy him beer for his football games with mates.
Just keep in mind you don't want to be taken for granted or used. Your life shouldn't revolve around pleasing him unless he does the exact same for you. So, make him feel special and all, do special things, but if you keep doing it over and over it will lose it's significance. Don't spoil him in other words or he can quickly take it for granted. Other than that it is nice that you want to please your partner.
But yeah, maybe you could do other intimate things that will bring you together, not necessarily sexually. Like go camping and sleep in a tent (or share the sleeping bag too), or car rides, playing team based games with other people, make chocolate truffles together (maybe you will get inspired by all the melted chocolate too).
I think, if you are the only one who can make him feel the way he does sexually/emotionally, then you're already being an amazing girlfriend. So don't try to overwork yourself. Just do what comes naturally and if he's happy why rock the boat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh absolutely I'll be doing things that turn me on and playing on my own fantasies. I am glad someone understands where I am coming from. Threesomes can totally be uncomfortable and awkward and full of jealousy but we are past that point in our relationship and know that ultimately the only other person in the world who can fully satisfy us is each other. It's pretty much just to explore and share our love for making each other feel good with someone else. He knows for a fact that no one can make him feel the way I can.
I am just wondering about fantasies other guys think about and doing things that would blow their minds if a girl was to do it for them. My boyfriend has told me some things but I think it would be super hot if I could come up with other ideas or use other ideas he has never told me or ones that he has never thought of. Thanks for all the answers so far. They are really helpful. Keep em coming! :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2011): haha! good for you girl! You're more adult than most of the answerers in this thread. :-)
It really depends on the guy, but a lot of guys are turned on by what turns their partner on, so you should include some things that excite you too. Maybe spanking, spreader bars, some light bondage (silk scarves and blindfolds), and there's many scenarios to be had with dressups and roleplay.
And yes, threesomes are great fun. Doing the pickup a stranger at a bar is a fun thing too.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (2 August 2011):
"Stuff that guys think would be really hot for their gf to do."
Give him a blowjob. Nuff said. Guys aren't hard to please.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 August 2011):
My only thought is whatever are you going to be able to come up with by the time you are 30?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have already done anal and we have had a threesome too. Both were very thrilling. Didn't have any problem with the threesome. It was thrilling that I could tell another girl how to make him feel good and he could do the same for me. We are on a level in our relationship where there are no secrets and no jealousy. He would never have sex with another girl unless it was during this threesome and I had said it was okay. He also asks me if he can do something to her that normally is a special thing between us. I am really not uncomfortable with doing it. The main thing is that I want to do things to surprise him. Stuff that guys think would be really hot for their gf to do. I wouldn't do anything that I am not already comfortable in trying. I just need ideas for what I could try. Someone told me that if I found a girl by myself to join us that would be hot. That is why it is on the list twice.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (2 August 2011):
Take away the threesome/another girl (which is just a threesome, don't know why you added it twice). Threesomes aren't "experimenting" with sex. Threesomes are their own thing. If you want to experiment you do things that only needs you and your partner, plus maybe a few props.
Anal is a good start. But, in order to know what you count as experimenting we'd need to know what you've done so far?
Here's another list, of things I like to do and "test" new partners for if they are into the same (which I suppose you could call experimenting to find out what you like). These are all things I actually DO, so nothing outlandish or crazy:
Bondage in various forms, pick one or two: handcuffs, blindfold, tied hands (loosely tied), gag, spanking, light slapping, biting, scratching etc.
S and M role-play: switch between who's S and who's M to see what roles you prefer. It needs to come naturally.
Toys: use a vibrator on yourself, or on him (between the balls and the anus in particular) or on yourself while you have him inside you (the guy feels the vibrations too). Or other types of toys if anything in particular catches your fancy, there are plenty of toys for men too that you could use on him. Experiment with different forms of lube when you use toys on the man so he doesn't get too much friction.
Positions: the funniest form of experimentation there is. Oral sex or intercourse, pick up a book of Kama Sutra and find your inspiration. Another fun thing: during intercourse, change positions without him pulling out of you. That way you discover new positions, and get to have fun at the same time. Sex should be fun. And, have sex right there and then when you get horny, be that in the car, standing up, leaning against the kitchen bench or out in the garden. If you get horny, just go for a quickie right there and then without planning it or thinking, just do it! Makes you feel fresh and frisky + you discover new places to have sex at and which places work and don't work.
Role-play: an absolute must. Nothing is as great as a good role-play session. S and M is a form of role-play as well unless you're going for the full lifestyle of it. Let the fantasy come naturally, be inspired by porn you watch together (they can have some interesting stories) or by erotic literature, or by your own dirty mind. For this one to work both partners need to be flexible and imaginative, otherwise it's just one partner telling the tale and the other thinking "wtf?". BOTH need to interact and get excited by the fantasy. No need to dress up unless you want to, just act it out. My personal role-play favourites: the secretary and the boss (if you happen to wear a pencil skirt all the better), pretend there is a desk if you don't have one, or that you are at the office (even if you're just in bed). The "innocent" girl, who doesn't know what sex is or how to have it, and the experienced man who is going to teach her. The captive of a pirate/thief/mafia/vampire who has to surrender to their every need...
Hope this helps. Don't do threesomes if all you want is experimentation and to freshen up your sex life. Threesomes are for people who are into threesomes, not for people who just want to have better sex. And threesomes can get awkward quickly.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 August 2011):
I'm thumbing through the DC Manual...I'll get back to you.
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (2 August 2011):
 I wouldn't do any of those things. What I think you should do is remove the focus from sex to more of a total body experience. That way when you get around to sex the rest of the body will feel really involved. get naked and get rubbing in all the other places.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2011): 'picking up another girl to join us' and 'threesome' are the same thing. But really think about that. Would you want to see your boyfriend having sex with another girl? Or even him pleasuring her? I'm sure he wouldn't want to see you with some other man's penis inside you! Threesomes can be trouble in relationships... they can cause jealousy, insecurity and in some cases, cheating. I would steer clear of this option!
Also, make sure you use PLENTY of lube when trying anal... it can be a bit uncomfortable without it!
Why not try different positions? Some can be difficult, making it interesting!
What about a shower or bath together?
There are lots of different lubes and condoms out there... dotted, ribbed, flavoured, tingle... they can spice things up.
What about a vibrating ring? Durex do a good one that just pops on at the base of the penis. From experience, this gives AMAZING pleasure for you both. I would definately recommend it!
Depending on just how experimental you are... you could try watersports...
Tie him up/get him to tie you to the bed, add a blindfold and let the fun begin!
Why not talk about your fantasies and add them in to your roleplaying?
Hope there are some new ideas here, and enjoy :)
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